https://www.pleasureboxxx.co.nz/blogs/news.atomPleasureboxxx.co.nz - News2023-07-09T12:29:44+12:00Pleasureboxxx.co.nzhttps://www.pleasureboxxx.co.nz/blogs/news/what-are-menstrual-cups2023-07-09T12:29:44+12:002023-07-09T12:29:44+12:00What Are Menstrual CupsPleasure Boxxx
A menstrual cup is a type of reusable feminine hygiene product. It’s a small, flexible funnel-shaped cup made of rubber or silicone that you insert into your vagina to catch and collect period fluid.
Cups can hold more blood than other methods, leading many women to use them as an eco-friendly alternative to tampons. And depending on your flow, you can wear a cup for up to 12 hours.
The mechanism of menstrual cup is simple. It's a cup of silicone or latex that is inserted into the vagina during menstruation. On the contrary that tampons and compresses, the menstrual cup does not absorb the flow, retained it inside so we can remove it whenever we need.
If you’re interested in using a menstrual cup, talk with your gynecologist. Although you can buy any of the brands online or in most stores, you’ll first have to find out what size you need. Most menstrual cup brands sell small and large versions.
To figure out the right menstrual cup size for you, you and your doctor should consider:
Smaller menstrual cups are usually recommended for women younger than 30 years old who haven’t delivered vaginally. Larger sizes are often recommended for women who are over 30 years old, have given birth vaginally, or have a heavier period.
Before you put in your menstrual cup
When you use a menstrual cup for the first time, it may feel uncomfortable. But “greasing” your cup can help make the process smooth. Before you put in your cup, lubricate the rim with water or a water-based lube (lubricant). A wet menstrual cup is much easier to insert.
How to put in your menstrual cup
If you can put in a tampon, you should find it relatively easy to insert a menstrual cup. Just follow these steps to use a cup:
Wash your hands thoroughly.
Apply water or a water-based lube to the rim of the cup.
Tightly fold the menstrual cup in half, holding it in one hand with the rim facing up.
Insert the cup, rim up, into your vagina like you would a tampon without an applicator. It should sit a few inches below your cervix.
Once the cup is in your vagina, rotate it. It will spring open to create an airtight seal that stops leaks.
You shouldn’t feel your menstrual cup if you’ve inserted the cup correctly. You should also be able to move, jump, sit, stand, and do other everyday activities without your cup falling out. If you’re having trouble putting in your cup, speak with your doctor.
When to take your menstrual cup out
You can wear a menstrual cup for 6 to 12 hours, depending on whether or not you have a heavy flow. This means you can use a cup for overnight protection.
You should always remove your menstrual cup by the 12-hour mark. If it becomes full before then, you’ll have to empty it ahead of schedule to avoid leaks.
How do I know when my menstrual cup is full?
A “heavy” feeling. Your pelvic muscles feel tired after holding a cup that is full.
A bubbling sensation. Cups that are about to overflow can create a feeling of bubbles.
Light warning leaks. ...
Slipping of the cup.
How to take your menstrual cup out
To take out a menstrual cup, just follow these steps:
Wash your hands thoroughly.
Place your index finger and thumb into your vagina. Pull the stem of the cup gently until you can reach the base.
Pinch the base to release the seal and pull down to remove the cup.
Once it’s out, empty the cup into the sink or toilet.
Cup aftercare
Reusable menstrual cups should be washed and wiped clean before being reinserted into your vagina. Your cup should be emptied at least twice a day.
Reusable menstrual cups are durable and can last for 6 Months - 10 Yearswith proper care. Throw away disposable cups after removal.
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https://www.pleasureboxxx.co.nz/blogs/news/5-awesome-ways-to-use-a-wand-vibrator-lewand2023-04-30T12:52:02+12:002023-04-30T12:52:02+12:005 Awesome Ways to Use a Wand Vibrator - leWANDPleasure Boxxx
Wand vibrators are, to put it lightly, revolutionary. They've become ubiquitous symbols of sexual pleasure, but they weren't always seen that way (at least not explicitly).
byCassandra Corrado / Nov 18, 2021
Wand vibes got a humble start as a "household appliance" in the 1960s and were frequently marketed as back massagers. I found a '70s version of the Hitachi at my grandmother's house a few years ago—see packaging for proof of just how thorough the "post-exercise massager" messaging is.
It didn't take long for people to realize their orgasmic potential, but it did take long for companies to be willing (and able) to acknowledge it.
Under the Comstock Act of 1873, it was illegal to send "indecent" or "obscene" publications through the mail and to own, sell, or gift an indecent or obscene item. That law didn't just affect toys and porn, it affected abortion and contraception legality, too. The Supreme Court eventually declared the Comstock Act unconstitutional in 1983, more than 100 years later.
Even though legally companies could now market their massagers as sex toys, many did not. Betty Dodson had popularized the wand vibrator (in particular, the Hitachi Magic Wand) in her body sex workshops, but Hitachi themselves didn't acknowledge the potential sexual purposes of their product until 1993, and even then, there wasn't a change in how it was marketed—that didn't come until 2013.
Today, wand vibrators are most commonly marketed as clitoral stimulation toys, but they're so much more than that. They can be used all over the outside of the body—regardless of the anatomy that you have. If you add an attachment, they can also double up as powerful G-spot and P-spot stimulators too.
Wands are an incredibly popular vibrator design for good reason—they're arguably the most versatile type of sex toy. They're also some of the most powerful and have helped countless people experience orgasm for the first time. Basically, wand vibrators give you the most bang for your buck.
If you're struggling to think of a way to use a wand other than on your clit (which is a perfect way, tbh), read on.
5 Ways to Use a Wand Vibrator
Wand vibrators can be used all over the outside of your body (and the inside, too, if you get an adaptor head). Not sure where to start? Consider this your pleasure to-do list. No matter which option you pick, remember to add lube!
1. Run it along the underside of the penis
The ridge that runs down the back of the penis loves the extra attention. You can lightly run a wand vibe from the frenulum to the base of the shaft and back again, pausing occasionally to extend the experience.
Trans feminine folks may find this type of play especially affirming and enjoyable, too. If your genitals feel too sensitive for vibe-to-skin contact, try the same motion through underwear or a sheet.
2. Practice squirting with an attachment
A wand vibrator on its own is incredibly versatile, but if you add a wand attachment, the possibilities (and pleasure) are pretty much endless. The combination of strong vibrators, external clitoral stimulation, and internal G-zone stimulation makes for a gushingly good time.
The "it's a back massager!" excuse actually has some validity. Wands have a long history of being sold as back and neck massagers, and their powerful vibrators and broad head make them great for that.
There's no shame in using your vibe to get your rocks off, but there's also no shame in using it to get rid of tension in other places. For instance, a Shiatsu massage.
4. Use it for leisurely scissoring
Scissoring, or rubbing two clitorises together, can be a thrilling and pleasurable experience—but it can also be a pretty decent workout.
If you want a more leisurely experience, try wedging a wand vibe between you and your partner's vulvas. You can throw in some orgasm control play and give one partner complete control of the vibe's intensity.
5. Wield it for all-over sensation play
Wand vibrators make for incredible sensation play toys, especially when you pair them with a blindfold. Talk with your partner about the parts of your body and levels of intensity you're into and not into, then, blindfold yourself and give your vibe to a partner. Let them design your buzzworthy adventure—the anticipation is half the fun.
When you're taking a well-deserved break from all of those deliciously rumbly activities, you grab your wand and belt out your best Mariah Carey impression (hey, we told you it was versatile).
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https://www.pleasureboxxx.co.nz/blogs/news/the-complete-guide-to-face-sitting-lewand2023-04-30T12:42:59+12:002023-04-30T12:42:59+12:00The Complete Guide to Face Sitting - leWANDPleasure Boxxx
The Complete Guide to Face Sitting
byAmanda Chatel / Jan 07, 2023
Simply, when it comes down to face sitting sex, there are two necessary components you need to pull it off: a face and genitals.
At some point, if you haven't been asked already, you may come across a partner who asks you to sit on their face. For some, the idea can seem a bit terrifying and thoughts of suffocating their partner to death might run rampant through their heads. While for others, when such a request has been put out there, they mosey on up to their partner, straddle their face and take a seat. Because life is short, so why the hell not?
What is face sitting?
There is no hidden meaning in the term face sitting. It is exactly that: sitting on your partner's face so they can orally stimulate the partner in the sitting position. It's also, to clarify, not always direct sitting but sometimes squatting or kneeling over your partner's face — something to keep in mind if suffocation is the first thing you think of when you hear the term face sitting.
Facesitting sex has an interesting history. Although some researchers have noted that it goes back to the 1800s, for example, The Cursed Woman (1859) by Nicholas François Octave Tassaert, in which a woman is sitting on the face of one partner, her legs draped on either side of their head, while two others stimulate her body (hardly cursed, but I digress), others trace the sex act back to ancient times. Wherein again, drawings from ancient Egypt, parts of Asia, and Medieval Europe, show the act being performed.
In 2014, the UK banned face sitting (as well as female ejaculation, to no surprise, and several other sex acts deemed "potentially harmful content") from being shown in online pornography. Although the ban was eventually overturned in 2019 and people could, once again, enjoy watching face sitting and the other previously banned acts in porn again, face sitting found itself — gasp! — in the taboo category.
Why is it also referred to as "Queening" in the BDSM/Femdom community?
In the BDSM community, where power dynamics are at play, face sitting is all referred to as "Queening". The reason for this is because the "Queen" (the dominant partner) sits on their "throne" (the face of the submissive partner).
Queening is an extremely powerful position as one can ride their partner's face, rubbing their vulva, clitoris, and if they want, as they're the one in control, their anus along the mouth and nose of their partner. In this position, the vulva owner isn't just empowered, but can achieve an orgasm easier because they can stimulate their clit against their partner's face — similar to being on top during sex and using their partner's pubic bone to reach climax.
Why would someone want to face sit?
If we really dive into it, there are easily dozens of reasons why someone might want to learn how to face sit. From experimenting with a new position to engaging in power dynamics, to simple curiosity, the reasons depend on the people involved and what they find sexually arousing.
What does face sitting feel like for the person on top?
1. In one word: great!
That is, if you enjoy receiving oral sex, which not everyone does and that's totally normal! Some people feel really vulnerable when it comes to receiving oral and would rather skip it. But for those who do enjoy it, face sitting is a comfortable way to have their genitals stimulated because, well, they're sitting and sitting is a pretty cozy position to be in no matter what one is engaging in.
2. Empowering.
Even if you and your partner aren't into BDSM, when someone is on top they have more control over their pleasure and there's a power in that. The top partner doesn't have to "Queen" their partner, per se, to feel like a queen as their partner's main focus is on stimulating their genitals.
3. Less vulnerable.
For those with vulvas who feel vulnerable during oral sex, a lot of that has to do with society and the "traditional" position of receiving oral. Society has tragically taught those with vulvas that their genitals are "dirty" (which is not true at all!) as opposed to penises. So, when you're laying there, legs spread eagle, it can feel vulnerable and intimidating. But when you're straddling your partner and you have that feeling of empowerment within you, you may find that you're less vulnerable thanks to the control you have from being on top.
What does face sitting feel like for a bottom?
1. Not to be redundant, but again, great.
For people who really, like really, really enjoy pleasuring their partner, there's no better way of showing that than through oral sex. As research has shown time and time again, the majority of those with vulvas need clit stimulation to orgasm orsquirt, and there's no better way to stimulate that part of the body than having their partner sit on their face. It's also in this position that the person on the bottom can be consumed by their partner's genitals, taking in all the tastes and smells without any distractions.
2. Empowering.
If you think you're seeing a pattern here, you're right; your eyes are not deceiving you! Although "Queening" is considered a dominant move, being on the bottom can be just empowering. While the bottom partner may not have as much physical control as the partner on top, they can still experience empowerment by pulling their partner deeper into their mouth and not allowing them to escape — consensually, of course — until a certain amount of orgasms have been achieved.
3. It's an ego boost.
Any person who's had sex with someone who has a vulva knows that penetration rarely brings them to orgasm. Or, to be more exact, only about 20% to 25% (based on the demographic of the various studies on the subject) can orgasm through penetration alone. Because clitoral stimulation is where it's at, the person on the bottom can get one hell of an ego boost as they're in the perfect position to bring their partner to climax — and over and over again, if their mouth has the stamina for it.
Can anyone try or learn how to face sit?
Short answer: yes. It doesn't matter your shape or size, or your genitals. Although face sitting is often associated with a vulva owner being on top, that doesn't mean that people with penises can't "Queen" in their own way. While the angle and position aren't as comfortable for the penis owner on top, it can still be done. So, yes, anyone can try face sitting sex, which also means anyone can love to face sit. Simply, when it comes down to face sitting, there are two necessary components you need to pull it off: a face and genitals.
Face sitting sex for beginners
First of all, it can't be stressed enough that if you're the one doing the straddling for the first time, you're likely to have concerns, and all those concerns are warranted. But when you sit down (pun!) and talk to your partner first about those concerns, as well as their concerns, because they could have some too, then you can both get on the same page about how you want to approach face sitting.
1. How to talk to your partner.
Whether you're the one interested in straddling your partner's face or they're the one who's asking you to do the straddling, consent should be a big part of the conversation. During this conversation, you want to share why you'd like to try it, why you think it might feel good for both of you, and how to physically approach it. You might find that your partner has zero interest in trying this particular sex act and that's their decision, end of story; you should never try to convince your partner to do something they don't want to do or push them in a direction to change their mind. Instead, listen to your partner and why they don't want to try it. You may find that their lack of interest is based on concerns, insecurities, or other factors. Putting all this on the table and really talking it through, you might find you're able to negotiate a happy medium that works for you both.
2. Best face sitting positions.
Although the "traditional" face sitting position, if we want to call it that, is sitting on a partner's face while facing the top of their head (making it easy access for hair pulling and pushing your genitals deeper into their face — consensually, of course), it's not the only face sitting position.
Face away from your partner.
One of the best parts about facing away from your partner as they stimulate your genitals is when they glance up, they get a very lovely view of that very lovely butt of yours. Licking your genitals while having such a view is basically the cherry on the top of the scenario. It's also a great way to add some analingus (aka. rimming) to the mix. While the anus stimulation can be performed when you're straddling your partner's face while facing them, when you turn around, it gives easier access to some proper ass-eating.
Squatting.
For those who fear the weight of their body might be too much for their partner's face, instead of having one knee resting on the bed (or whatever surface you're using) on either side of their side of your head, you can try squatting. With squatting you have more power to not just tease your partner as you hover your genitals over their face, but it can give you less anxiety about the effect of what your full amount of weight on their face might be like for them. Although, it should be taken into consideration that not everyone's quads are strong enough to hold such a position for an extended period of time. If this is the case, then take a break. Or, better yet, switch places.
Leaning against the headboard.
Some sex positions require support. For example, very few people can have intercourse standing up without a wall to support them. Sure, they can try, but those people usually end up on the floor. The same can be said for facesitting. If balance isn't your strong suit or you don't want to put your entire weight on your partner, using the headboard of the bed or the wall for support can not only help you in staying upright, but it can give you even more control over how much weight you want to put on your partner's face. If your partner wants more, then that wall or headboard can help you push your body down even further into their face and mouth.
3. The importance of having a safe word.
It doesn't matter if you're the most "vanilla" couple around or the kinkiest, a safe word is always important. When we say our safe words, everything must stop immediately. When you and your partner decide to try face sitting, make sure you both have a safe word and you're both very clear as to what the safe word is. With face sitting, you also want to have a safe signal. If you have the full weight of your body on your partner's face, there's a good chance they won't be able to share their safe word. Or, if they do, you probably won't hear them. So having a signal, like tapping on one of your thighs, is something you want to agree upon in advance.
4. Face sitting techniques.
In addition to positions, face sitting also allows different techniques that you can explore with your partner.
Cunnilingus.
Although cunnilingus may be the first thing that comes to mind when it comes to face-sitting, it's not the only technique that can be used. Yes, it's a great place to start as the clitoris is chock-full of a whopping 8,000 nerves, but it's also not the only erogenous zone in that area. Bonus tip: Try the Kivin Method (aka. the best way to perform cunnilingus).
Analingus.
For those who love anal play, face-sitting is the ideal position to get up close and personal to the anus, stimulating it with your mouth and tongue. Or, while the bottom partner is focusing on the genitals with their face, they can stimulate the anus with their fingers too. Here are some anal massage and anal fingering moves to try right away.
Breath play.
It has to be stressed that breath play not only needs to be discussed beforehand, but it involves a lot of communication along the way. While it's certainly empowering when you're on top to literally take your partner's breath away, it's also something that needs to be monitored. This is where that safe word and/or signal really comes into play.
Using toys.
If you're not taking the dominant role of "Queening" your partner, if you straddle their face while facing away from them, you can use a mini vibe such as the Le Wand Grand Bullet to stimulate their genitals. Whether the bottom partner is a vulva owner or penis owner, vibrators can really add an extra something to face sitting for both partners.
Whether you're on the top or the bottom, it's important to check in with your partner. Asking if they're comfortable, if they can breathe OK, if they're enjoying it, if another position would be better for them, or other questions that keep the lines of communication open are paramount. It's also the best way to make sure the experience is equally delicious for both of you.
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https://www.pleasureboxxx.co.nz/blogs/news/what-is-nipple-play-lewand2023-04-30T12:40:55+12:002023-04-30T12:40:55+12:00What is Nipple Play? - leWANDPleasure Boxxx
The best part about "nipplegasms," is that anyone with nipples can have one! Master these titillating nipple play tips for beginners and pros.
Despite being one of the most common erogenous zones — in addition to the surrounding areola — nipples tend to get overlooked. In some cases, people reach for the breast as a whole or directly for the genitals, which is a shame because the right amount of stimulation can lead to a nipple orgasm. That's right; nipple play and nipple orgasms are a thing, so you might as well add that to your sexual bucket list now.
What is nipple play?
Nipple play is, exactly as the name suggests, playing with or more specifically, stimulating the nipples. Nipple play can include touching, rubbing, licking, sucking, twisting, pinching, and/or using toys to stimulate the nipples — and that's just the beginning. Although the nipples, like the clitoris and penis, are composed of erectile tissue allowing them to become engorged and making them even more sensitive, they don't always get the attention they deserve.
What does a nipple orgasm feel like?
The best part about nipple orgasms, or as they're also known, "nipplegasms," is that anyone with nipples can have one. But the tricky part is trying to achieve them. Unlike the frequency of orgasms that result from clitoral or penial stimulation, nipple orgasms are far more elusive with anywhere from only 1% to possibly 15% of people having reported experiencing them.
Similar to orgasms in general, trying to describe what a nipple orgasm feels like is complicated. We all experience pleasure in different ways, and this includes orgasms. Some say a nipple orgasm feels like a subtle build-up that you can't get enough of that, finally when you think things can't get any higher in intensity, there's a full-body sensation that reverberates throughout. Others report less intense nipple orgasms, but just like a less intense clitoral or penial orgasm, it may be small, but still delicious.
Nipple play for beginners
If you haven't delved into the beautiful world of nipple play, then hold onto your pants (or don't), because things are going to get really hot. But before you start experimenting with nipple play, you want to gauge your nipple sensitivity. Some people just need to accidentally brush their nipple against a doorframe to get aroused, while others need to bring out the nipple clamps before they can start to feel turned on. Only you can decide your sensitivity level, so take time to explore that either solo or with a partner.
1. Communicate
Once you've established just how sensitive your nipples are, you can begin to experiment with touch. You can start with simple circular-type motions or try a bit of twisting and pinching. If you're with a partner, give them the opportunity to explore your nipples in their own way — the thought of bringing you to orgasm via your nipples is just as exciting for them as it is for you. Whatever feels best, that's the map you want to follow or, if you're with a partner, the direction you want to send them toward. But because moans can sometimes be misconstrued, being vocal about consent with your partner is paramount. Make sure you use your words to establish consent every step of the way clearly.
2. Warm-up
Nothing says warm-up for nipple play like lube. With your favorite lube, get comfy. Dim the lights and put on your favorite nipple play songs if that's what it takes to set the mood.
Also, whether you'll be playing solo or with a partner, make sure you have toys close by. Avibrating necklace is the cherry on top of proper nipple stimulation — and for some the best way to reach a nipplegasm.
3. Tips & Techniques
Now it's time to really go to town, but don't rush it! Like all good things in life, you want to take your time. In fact, when trying to achieve a nipple orgasm, you want to set aside a substantial amount of time so you can explore different techniques. Nibble, lick, twist, pinch, rub, caress, use a vibrator,experiment with temperature play, flick them, ask your partner to breathe on them or even bite them (consensually, of course), and tease them.
While all this is happening, notice the effect the sensations have on your genitals. Let all the feelings wash over you, succumbing to every bit of touch you're experiencing. Allow your body to melt into the pleasure of it all. There's no right or wrong way to achieve an orgasm, so really lean into everything you're feeling and be as present as possible.
Advanced nipple play tips
If you're someone whose nipples aren't on the sensitive side or if you're someone who prefers pain with your pleasure, then it's time to step it up a notch and go for some advanced nipple action and experience even more sensitivity.
1. Piercings or Oils
From a psychological standpoint, a great way to amplify nipple sensitivity and enhance your sex life is by getting one (or both!) nipples pierced. On the one hand, nipple piercings are aesthetically hot, which can be a turn-on for both you and your partner. On the other hand, the piercing itself makes nipples instantly far more sensitive than they were before. Even the slightest touch of a pierced nipple can send someone directly to cloud nine and take them one step closer to a nipple orgasm.
If you can't stomach the thought of getting your nipple — or any body part, for that matter — pierced, there are gels orsensation lubeson the market that are specifically made to increase nipple sensitivity. But, as with all things you put on (or in) your body, you want to ensure all ingredients are body safe. Having extra sensitive nipples until you end up with skin irritation because you didn't thoroughly read the ingredients. p.s. Find out why everyone's raving about coconut oil lube!
2. Experiment with Temperature Play
Whether it's nipples, genitals, or othererogenous zones, temperature play is always a tantalizing way to play with body parts. Ice, in particular, will immediately make your nipples so sensitive and so erect that it might feel like they're going to shoot off into outer space. If you're not one for icy situations, a warming sensation lube can equally arouse your nipples but in a different way. Lube also makes skin-to-skin touch silky smooth, so gliding anything from other body parts to sex toys over the nipple will feel extra enhanced.
3. Introduce BDSM Accessories
Although when we think of BDSM-related nipple play goodies, the first thing that comes to mind might benipple clamps(which are wonderful, and some even vibrate!), those aren't the only accessories that can make your experience more fulfilling.
For example, running over the nipple with aWartenberg wheelcan evoke the type of goosebumps that can possibly bring you closer to the elusive nipple orgasm. Nipple pumps and claw clamps are other options with which to experiment if you have BDSM and nipple play on the brain.
4. Repurpose Clitoral Toys
Nipples may not have as many nerve endings as a clitoris, but that doesn't mean that toys that are made for clits can't be used to enhance nipple play. Atwo prong vibratorlike Le Wand Deux was practically made to hug the nipple and vibrate each side of it to pure ecstasy. If you're more into suction or something similar to the feeling ofcunnilingus on your nipples, then theSatisyfer Pro 2, for example, can offer exactly that sensation, making it an ideal choice if you're rolling solo with your nipple play.
Best sex toy for nipple play
But when it comes to the best of the best when trying to find the ideal toy for nipple play, look no further thanLe Wand Necklace. Part of theChrome Mini Vibratorscollection, this gorgeous necklace isn't just eye-catching but orgasm-inducing.
1. It's Stunning
At first glance, you'd never assume that something so elegant could have such a secret, but how wrong you are. With eight vibration modes that are super quiet on a 26-inch nickel-free, stainless steel chain, and a USB charger to boot, Le Wand Necklace Vibe is about to become your favorite accessory.
2. It's Versatile
It doesn't matter where you are or who you're with, this vibe can easily be removed from your neck and used to stimulate whatever part of your body needs it most. Not only can the necklace with its eight vibration options bring you to nipplegasm heaven, but it can also be used to stimulate other erogenous zones too. From the clit, to the labia, to the perineum — any part of the body that loves vibration to get off Le Wand Necklace Vibe is there to provide.
If you've ever wanted to stimulate yourself or someone else discreetly (perhaps you want to learnhow to masturbate in publicfor an upcoming Spring festival?), this necklace has your back, clit, nipple, and more. As long as you have your necklace vibe on, you'll always be prepared and ready, no matter when or where, to experiment with the wonderful world of orgasms, especially the nipple orgasm. Just don't be afraid to explore some of those uncharted waters and let the vibe take you to other places, physically and mentally.
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https://www.pleasureboxxx.co.nz/blogs/news/head-games-using-vibrators-for-penis-pleasure-lewand2023-04-30T12:36:59+12:002023-04-30T12:41:16+12:00Head Games: Using Vibrators for Penis Pleasure - leWANDPleasure Boxxx
Ever tried a vibe on a D? We want to talk about blowjobs,edging with toys, handjobs, vibrator on dick, anything, and everything to do with penis pleasure!
Writer's note: Throughout this article, we will be referring to the genitals of someone assigned male at birth as a penis and using masculine pronouns, but these tips will work on a wide range of folx, regardless of their gender or what they call their privates.
Investing in your first sex toy can be an exciting and/or overwhelming experience. Once you have it in your hands, what do you even do with it? It may seem straightforward, but if it's your first sex toy it's completely understandable to feel a bit out of the sea without a little direction.
On the flip side, maybe you have a drawer full of sex toys and you aren't looking for a new toy but rather looking for new ways to use your existing 100 vibrators. You've tried each toy at each setting at different angles on your sensitive bits and now want to use your trusty go-to pleasure tool in a new way.
We're here to help! Through years of, um, "personal research," our team has compiled a list of creative ways to turn your toys into weapons of mass destruction in a way that you may have never even considered before. By mass destruction, we're talking about blowjobs, handjobs, anything, and everything to do with penis pleasing -- and YES, you can use vibrators on penis' for intense and sometimes explosive results.
Scroll down to read our top five tips on using a vibrator on penis during oral sex:
1. Preheating the oven
It may seem like some folks are always "ready to go," and sometimes others might need a helping hand. Foreplay can be just as important for him as it is for anyone and using a handheld vibrator (like theLe Wand Bullet,Grand Bullet, or theLe Wand Petite) can aid with getting things going.
Before you begin, make sure to apply amplewater based lubeto your toy. There is nothing more uncomfortable than an unlubricated sex toy on the genitals, regardless of how high quality the material of the toy is!
How to use a vibrator on a penis
Set your toy to the lowest setting with your partner's preferred pattern. The patterns that have quick "thuds" can often work the best here, as each thud acts as a little knock at the door. Lightly trace the vibrating part of the toy around the head of the penis while doing whatever else you want -- making out, kissing their neck,playing with their nipples, whatever their "thing" is. You can even hold the vibrator in the palm of your hand and simply wrap your hand around the entire penis, applying a slight amount of pressure, and not move your hand at all. This will help send the pulsing vibrations deeper into the penis and get the blood flowing to the area.
2. Snake charmer AKA the frenulum vibrator
Once he is at attention, it's time to start turning up the heat. With the penis fully erect, it is ok to start using stronger intensity vibrations.
Turn your vibe up to the setting your partner prefers and apply light pressure to the frenulum -- this is the soft area on the "front" of the penis in between where the head of the penis merges into the shaft. This area is incredibly sensitive and responds well to lubrication, vibration, and even temperature.
Apply slight pressure to the frenulum and then slide the vibe down the front of the shaft as you take the head of the penis into your mouth. The vibe should reach where the shaft meets the testicles and hold there for a beat, then slide back up and repeat. You can modify the pace based on personal preference.
3. It's all in the throat
This one admittedly feels a little silly, but it's simple and easy to do with some pretty fun results. Using thePetite, press up again the bottom of your chin just above your voice box to turn your mouth into a vibrating wonderland.
Warning: If you talk while you're attempting this, you will have some serious robot voice! Give it a try if you're up for having a laugh. Sex should be fun after all, so have fun with it!
4. The reach-around
While positioned behind your partner, reach around and use theLe Wand Pointto cradle your partner's penis. Gently stroke up and down while moving your body in sync. The lack of eye contact adds to the psychological excitement here and can feel next level amazing!
5. Playing with the luggage
Of course, you should never forget to play with the testicles!
Playing with the balls can make both parties feel a bit nervous because we don't want to hurt them (obviously). But believe it or not, the testicles are actually fairly resilient and respond well to temperature, pressure, vibrator, and even (brace yourself) light squeezing.
There is a common phrase used in regards to fingering that goes "know the difference between summoning a genie and stuffing a chicken," and the same rule applies to pressure on the testicles.
Using the originalLe Wand, have your partner lay on their back and position the head of the wand directly against their body under their balls. This will hit your body differently depending on the size of your body, so don't feel like you can't play around with this just because "it's not in the right spot."
With the wand between their legs and against their body, gently lift the wand towards the testicles as you alternate hand strokes on the penis. As you go down further along the shaft with your mouth, raise the wand up to meet the testicles, and then when you are coming up lower the wand back down. This will give a pleasure-in-stereo sensation that will add an exciting level of stimulation to an otherwise basic blowjob.
These are only a handful of suggestions for how to creatively use your sex toys on a partner. We strongly encourage you to get creative and communicate with your partner about what they like. See what you can come up with together!
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https://www.pleasureboxxx.co.nz/blogs/news/why-you-need-to-use-a-butt-plug-cock-ring-combo-toy-bvibe2023-04-30T12:35:16+12:002023-04-30T12:35:16+12:00Why You Need to Use a Butt Plug/Cock Ring Combo Toy - BVIBEPleasure BoxxxJan 13, 2022/ByZachary Zane
In my humble opinion, cock rings are one of the most underutilized sex toys for penis owners, which is ridiculous, given how simple they are to use. You just slide one over the base of your penis (and, depending on the ring, around your testicles too). That's it—you're in business!
Cock rings then keep the blood trapped in your penis so that you can maintain your erection. They can also be useful for penis owners who struggle with premature ejaculation, especially the cock rings that pull your testicles away from your body.
They're also easy to clean because you don't put them inside you or your partner. (I can't tell you how many times I've had to boil a sex toy to get rid of that lingering poopy smell. Gross, I know...)
However, cock rings probably won't give you a full-body orgasm—at least not on their own. Instead, you need a little something in the booty to send shivers up and down your spine. That is why I love using a cock ring and a butt plug simultaneously. Usually, I use two different toys, but once in a while, there's a two-for-one like the Vibrating Snug & Tug.
To be honest, I hadn't enjoyed any combo butt plug/cock rings before this one. I always like them theoretically, but there's always been an issue with function. It makes sense as to why this is the case. It's challenging to create a universal ring that connects to a plug that fits the body of all penis owners. Obviously, no two bodies are the same, and everyone's penis is a different size and shape. But somehow, the Vibrating Snug & Tug fits me perfectly.
Additionally, the butt plug is somewhere between small and medium-sized, making it ideal for folks who are new to anal play, but it's also big enough to have that "full" feeling you want when a plug is inside of you.
The cock ring attached is stretchy enough to pull over your penis, but once it's on, it secures itself tightly. The best part is, this toy vibrates. I've never had a cock ring/butt plug combo that vibrates before, but this one did, and *chefs kiss.* It's a gamechanger to feel the vibrations inside of you and on your penis. It's almost to the point where it's too much—a sensory overload—almost.
At first, I gave the Vibrating Snug & Tug a while masturbating by myself to get a feel for it. After that success, I used it with a partner, and she—she was very into it. She could feel the vibrations on my penis even though they were emanating from the butt plug. She also liked how verbal I became. I'm always a fairly loud person during sex, but when I put the vibrations to a "pulse" setting so they would start and stop, I'd make a little "Uh" every time the pulse hit me.
The only thing she did not like is the fact I came relatively quickly. (A big el-oh-el.) The vibrations and sensations simply felt too good. Luckily, as a sex writer, I know that sex isn't over just because I came, so I ate her out while using a Le Wand so that she could orgasm too.
So over, great success, as Borat would say! Next time, I may wait to turn on the vibrations until a little later, so I don't finish too quickly. But hey, if my problem is that this toy feels "too good"—I'm very okay with that!
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https://www.pleasureboxxx.co.nz/blogs/news/5-positions-to-get-the-most-bang-for-your-booty-bvibe2023-04-30T12:33:54+12:002023-04-30T12:33:54+12:005 Positions to Get the Most Bang for Your Booty - BVIBEPleasure BoxxxOct 06, 2021/ByDirty Lola
You may be wondering, can a butt plug really be a couple's toy and the answer is YES!
Besides being a great way to experiment with double penetration during penetrative sex, butt plugs can be utilized in all kinds of play scenarios. They're great forfirst time anal masturbation, but they shine during partner play!
Take Remote-controlled plugs, for instance; they are excellent for play in and out of the bedroom. You can use a remote plug to spice up laundry day or make dinner a steamy affair. While remote-controlled plugs can be used during sex, there are other ways to incorporate plugs into sexy time with your partner that will leave your hands free to do other things. This is where finding a few good positions come in handy.
Missionary Plus
The missionary position always gets a bad rap. For whatever reason, it was saddled with the reputation as the most boring position when it's actually one of the most versatile positions. What other position gives you complete body contact while making out and soul gazing??? Now add a plug, and you get another layer of sensation.
Because the wall between the anus and vaginal canal is so thin, you can feel every curve, ripple, or bead with a penis or fingers amping up the excitement level. Try theb-Vibe Twist or Swirl if textures turn you on. Want to kick it up another notch? Have the receiver (the person on the bottom) change their leg and hip positions. One or both legs pulled up towards the chest also gives more access to the giver ( the person on top), allowing them to hit all the good spots during penetration.
Another reason Missionary is so great is that it's not just for penetration with a penis or dildo. It's also an excellent position for grinding. The giver can easily grind against a plug while in Missionary, taking stimulation to a whole other level.
Double Doggy Dare
Doggy is the classic anal sex position, so it makes sense that it would also be a great position to double the fun with plugged sex. Doggy gives the giver the ability to press a plug deeper with each stroke. Essentially stimulating two holes at once. If you love to tease and delay gratification, this position was made for that. The giver can pause and manipulate a plug or dildo with their hands teasing the receiver. Of course, the receiver can always take control and back into the giver. Topping from the bottom, if you will.
Sleeping Booty is a fantastic position for folks who have mobility issues as it takes the weight off of your knees, hips, elbows, and hands. The receiver lies face down with a pillow, bolster, or small sex wedge under their hips. They can rest on their head on another pillow for added comfort. This position gives you all the benefits of doggy without the aching joints. Another plus to this position is the giver can get creative with their stroke game. Try a one-leg lunge while you press against that plug and see what kind of magic happens.
Bedazzled Backward Cowgirl
Bedazzled Backward Cowgirl is the perfect position for showing off those pretty sparkly plugs like b-Vibe'sVibrating Jewel Plug. In this position, the giver is on top, leaning forward while facing the receiver's feet. This gives the receiver a view of all the goodies. So if your partner is one of those fancy voyeurs who enjoy looking at pretty things during sex, this is the move. This is another great position for the receiver to have a bit of control. While the giver is riding, rocking, or grinding you both to orgasmville the receiver can add to the fun by manipulating the plug.
Oral Sensations
If you're not a big fan of vaginal penetration, or it's just one of those nights when you want your partner's mouth on your body, then it's a great night to break out the remote-controlled butt plugs. For the best access to your partner's juicy bits, you can revisit the Missionary Plus position with knees up to the chest or the Double Doggy Dare and Sleeping Booty if you prefer going down from behind. Once in place, the giver can wear a plug, and the receiver can use the remote to control the plug, so both parties are pleasuring one another simultaneously. Go the extra mile and have the giver and receiver each wear a plug for dual sensations. Don't have a remote-controlled plug? No problem, the giver is in the perfect position to manipulate the plug manually.
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https://www.pleasureboxxx.co.nz/blogs/news/best-anal-sex-positions-bvibe2023-04-30T12:32:37+12:002023-04-30T12:32:37+12:00Best Anal Sex Positions - BVIBEPleasure BoxxxLooking to spice up your anal sex positions, or perhaps you're curious to find out the best position for first time anal? We've got your back! Here's our most updated guide on the best anal sex positions.
When it comes to making anal sex feel great, it’s important to get the ergonomics and poses sorted out. The right angle or anal sex pose can make everything more comfortable and enjoyable, for both the giver and the receiver. Below are the top 10 anal sex positions for beginners & experienced players alike.
Best Anal Sex Positions Facing Down
One of the reasons facing down is considered the best position for first time anal sex is that it makes everything much more accessible to the person that's penetrating. The more they can see what they're doing, the smoother things will go! That's especially true if you're starting off with analingus (AKA oral sex on the anus), anal massage, or some anal fingering to warm up.
Try lying flat with your legs apart. It's super relaxing and is often considered the easiest position for anal sex.
If you find this anal sex position above isn't as comfortable as you’d like, you can bend one leg at the hip and knee, resting that leg on a pillow. Find the angle that allows you to relax into the surface of the bed.
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Another great anal sex position that's enjoyable and effective is when you get on your elbows and knees. This angle for anal works better than hands and knees for two reasons — First, keeping your hips above your shoulders spreads the butt cheeks and gives easier access for the person penetrating. Second, using your hands and knees can put a lot of undesirable pressure on the wrists. Oh, and did we mention that it's also ideal forspanking?
You can also stand on the floor and bend over the bed, the kitchen table, the hood of the car, or anything else that’s the right height and angle for anal. Put a little bend in your knees to give a little extra movement to your hips.
Word of caution: If the receiver is a vulva-owner, be careful not to let any lubricant run downhill and get onto the vulva or into the vagina. That can cause some serious problems as you don't want bacteria from the anus entering the vagina.
Best Anal Sex Positions Facing Up
If you want to try a face-up anal sex position, start by placing a small pillow under your hips and another one under your head. That puts your spine in a C-curve and helps everything stay flexible while providing a great angle for anal penetration.
You can also place your feet flat on the bed with your knees bent, or you can grab the backs of your knees and draw them towards your chest. Having your knees close to the chest gives more access, but might feel like it takes more effort, so find the best angle that feels enjoyable to you.
You can also do this at the edge of the bed, while the giver stands on the floor. That makes it easy for them to use their hands or a sex toy. And if you want to move towards anal intercourse, it might be the perfect angle for you.
Facing up is one of the best sex positions for first time anal because it makes it easy to include the genitals in your fun, and you have the added intimacy of eye contact. But it can also get a little tricky since the giver has to operate by feel rather than by sight. So you might have better results if you start with the facing down anal sex positions to warm up, and then shift to face up once things have gotten going.
For solo pleasure, a face-up sex position can be a good way to include genital pleasure along with your anal fun. You might need to try different angles, depending on your arm length and flexibility. Try going between your legs or around the back and see what works better for you.
Best Anal Sex Positions While On Top
Face up and face down are great for hands and toys, as well as anal intercourse and pegging. But there’s nothing stopping you from being on top, either. It's possible THE best position for first time anal. One advantage to being on top during anal intercourse and pegging is that the receiver is in full control of the depth and pace of penetration. You can get just the right angle and speed that works for you. Plus, there’s easy access to the genitals for some extra pleasure.
If the receiver is a prostate-owner, he can slide down and then rock his hips from front to back. That levers the dildo or penis towards the P-spot for an out-of-this-world prostate orgasm! You can also try these first time anal positions face to face or reverse it and face away from your lover. You can also have the giver sitting on a chair or couch, which will allow them to touch you more easily. And if you like showing off, place a mirror where you can both see it.
Best Anal Sex Positions Lying Sideways
For the most comfortable position for anal sex, try lying on the side of your bed. Bend your upper leg at the knee and hip, and place it on a pillow. The giver can straddle your lower leg (which is straight) and use their hands or a toy. This is also one of the best sex positions for pegging and anal intercourse.
The side-lying anal sex position is a great option for people with back or knee pain since it gives a lot of support. Lying sideways is also one of the easiest anal positions if you’re pregnant or on the bigger end of the spectrum.
Experimenting with Anal Sex Positions
These so-called 'best positions for anal sex' might work for some people, but none of them work for everyone. Even a small change in angle or leg position can make a big difference. The most important thing is for the receiver to be comfortable since that will help them stay relaxed and open. If it’s hard on your hips to lie on your back with your legs apart, use a couple of pillows to prop your knees. If face down is difficult on your shoulders, lie on a yoga bolster or stack some pillows. It might take a little experimenting to figure out the right support, and it’s totally worth it.
Ah, erotic spanking - the wonderful sensation of combining pleasure and just the right amount of pain!
Spanking during sex has been around for thousands of years. Archeologists have found frescos by the Etruscan civilization dating as far back as the fifth century BCE. One fresco, in particular, reveals three people engaged in a threesome with the woman in the equation being whipped with some sort of stick. The ancient sex guide, Kama Sutra, too, suggests adding spanking to sexual acts to increase sexual arousal for all partners. So, yes, our long-ago ancestors really knew what was up when it comes to taking pleasure to the next level.
Why do folks enjoy spanking or being spanked?
As is the case with most sexual acts, the reason for enjoying spanking varies. For those who are being spanked, there can be the appeal of being dominated by their partner, receiving a consensual punishment. For those who prefer to do the spanking, there's the thrill of dominating their partner and having control over the situation, again, consensually of course.
While both those reasons to enjoy spanking are valid, it also comes down to neurotransmitters in the brain. There is a neurochemical relationship between pain and pleasure, as they're both reward-punishment systems that play a major role in our lives, even outside of sex. When someone is enjoying something, dopamine is released and the neurotransmitters prepare the brain for its reward in the pleasure centers. If someone is spanked (or is doing the spanking) and enjoys it, the dopamine continues to be released so that the brain knows that the person is really loving the experience. There's a combination of anticipation and sensation (sensation, being the reward) at play. However, this link doesn't exist in everyone, and for those that don't have it, spanking or being spanked isn't for them.
Spanking for Beginners
If you've never engaged in spanking at all or are with a new partner with whom you've never been spanked by or have spanked, then a discussion needs to be had. You don't just jump headfirst into spanking without a thorough conversation and a lot of consent.
How to bring up spanking with your partner
If you're having sex with someone, whether it's a one-night stand or a long-term relationship, being able to talk about sex is essential. Sometimes the best way to broach the subject is by talking about your fantasies with your partner. It's during these intimate conversations about both of your sexual desires that you can share with your partner your interest in spanking and ask if they'd be interested too. It's important to keep the conversation honest and shame-free, no matter what sexual acts and fantasies are discussed. And it's even more important to not act disappointed should your partner not be too keen on the idea of spanking. We all experience pleasure in different ways and your visible disappointment can make your partner not only feel bad but feel pressured to do something they don't want to do -- and that's the last thing you want to do to your partner.
What to do if your partner isn't interested in spanking?
If that honest conversation leads to your partner not being interested in being spanked by you, nor do they have a desire to spank you, then what's a person to do? You can take the conversation in the direction of meeting somewhere in the middle. For example, if you're the one who wants to do the spanking, maybe spanking a pillow or the mattress when the urge strikes, is a compromise your partner is OK with. If you want to be spanked, then perhaps you spanking yourself during sex with your partner is also another alternative technique they can support you in pursuing. In many cases, even sexual cases, a happy medium can be met if both partners agree that sex is a give and take.
What to do before a spanking session?
Again, you want to talk to your partner when you prepare for your spanking session. Will there only be spanking on the ass? Will vulva spanking be on the menu? What about a light spank across the cheek or breasts? Does the scrotum want in on the action? You also want to cover boundaries and expectations. For example, do you want to be spanked lightly or hard enough to leave welts or bruises? Is a pink handprint the limit for you and your partner? Is it OK to spank the ass harder than another part of the body? Your entire epidermis is technically spankable, so you want to make sure you both cover the what, where, and how of it all. Then start gently, keeping the lines of communication open the whole time.
Spanking Techniques
Because there's so much of the human body that can be spanked, some spots being more pleasurable than others, you want to familiarize yourself with the techniques of spanking.
Where to Spank
1. Butt: If you're not sure where to spank, then let's make it easy: start with the ass. The largest muscle in the body, the gluteus maximus, can absorb spanking in a way that a bonier part of the body can't. As a beginner, this is a place you really want to focus on, but you also don't want to spank the same spot over and over again. If you think of this part of the body as a beautiful canvas that needs attention all over, then you'll be more likely to move about. Spanking in the same spot repeatedly can lead to welts and even breaking of the skin. Unless this is something your partner consented to, keep your spanks moving around the butt.
2. Genitals: As you and your partner become more and more aroused, blood will be heading straight to your genitals, engorging them, and making them sensitive to the touch. At this point, spanking the vulva or scrotum can also be a feel-good option, but only if it's been discussed. Some people's genitals are far too sensitive when they're aroused to handle even a light spank.
3. Other parts of the body: As mentioned above, the ass and genitals aren't the only places where spanking can be enjoyable, especially if you delve deeper into BDSM. The face, breasts, feet, inner thighs, armpits, and other erogenous zones can also be places to explore the sensation of spanking with your partner.
How to Spank
1. With yourhand: If you're still relatively new to spanking, you probably don't want to show up to a spanking session with an arsenal of sex toys for spanking. It's best to start with what you know best: your hand. Skin-on-skin contact is not only sensual because you both get to feel the impact without anything in between, but intimate. One of the best parts about sex is the feeling of your lover's skin against yours, and using your hand offers that. It's also less likely to hurt or leave a mark -- if these are two things you plan to avoid. Also, if you're the spanker, be aware of your own strength, especially as you become more excited.
2. With a flogger or paddle: If you want to up your spanking game and try a different sensation, then items like floggers, paddles, and crops are a great option to use for exploration. But because they're not your hand, you want to be aware of the impact they make while using different levels of force and where you use them. While using these toys can really spice up spanking exploration for some people, for others, these toys may not have the same appeal. If you and your partner realize that you're both hands-only spankers and spankees, then that's just how you roll!
3. Other items: If you want to get creative, there are many things that could be used to be spanked by or to spank your partner with: magazines, slippers, belts, books, and the list goes on! But no matter what you choose to use, make sure the choice is made by both partners and consent has been given.
Best Spanking Positions
1. Over the knee: Nothing says you've been oh-so bad like having your partner take you over their knee to spank you. For those who want to dabble with sub/dom role-play, this position is perfect for that.
2. Doggy style: Any time someone is in the doggy style position, their ass is right there in front of you and ready to be spanked. This position also allows for generation at the same time, offering a cocktail of sensations for both partners.
3. Standing: It doesn't matter if you're having standing intercourse or standing oral, in which one part is on their knees doing the giving, both these positions provide for a couple of different spanking scenarios. For example, if you're the one standing, you can spank your partner's face while they're going down on you and they can spank your ass at the same time. Sex combos are always a win-win.
4. Bent over furniture: When it comes to sex, furniture can be the third wheel you want around. There's so much that can be done with the backs of couches, the arms of chairs, the staircase, the desk, the kitchen counter -- you can pretty much turn your home into a sexual free-for-all. But as for spanking, nothing is quite as delicious as being bent over a piece of furniture or seeing your partner bent over, say, the kitchen table to really turn each other on.
5. Straddling: If you're the one who prefers to spank instead of being spanked, having your partner straddle you, either with or without penetration, then spanking them in this position is, well, fantastic. There's also a power dynamic at play: you may be doing the spanking, but the partner on top also has quite a bit of control.
Advanced Spanking
Also known as rough spanking, advanced spanking is all about pushing the limits of both pain and pleasure. It's also not for the faint of heart. Although spanking is the most common BDSM activity, it's still a long way from really rough BDSM-style spanking and not something anyone should just go into on a whim. It's something you need to work up to and do with someone you trust implicitly, so you feel safe at all times.
Consent
It can't be stressed enough just how important consent is when it comes to all sexual acts, especially those that push our personal boundaries. But although you are pushing those personal boundaries, you still have boundaries that shouldn't be ignored. Before you even think about going down the road of rough spanking, which is likely to be part of rough sex, you want to have a long talk with your partner and acknowledge the physical damage that might be consensually done and whether you're both prepared for that. Make sure you both agree that consent can be revoked at any time and when it is, that's it; it stops.
Safety measures
Whenever you're engaging in any type of rough sexual acts, the first step, if you don't have one already, is coming up with a safe word. What is a safe word? A safe word is a word that each partner agrees to acknowledge that, when said, everything stops immediately. Although some people have more than one safe, for example, one that means "stop" and one that means "ease up," as long as you both have a safe word and you know each other's safe word, that's what matters most.
Precautions
If the spanking gets really rough, there's a good chance there will be some battle wounds -- consensual battle wounds. Having a damp towel, topical antibiotics, and ice within reach are a good way to prepare for what's to come. It will also be there when it's time for aftercare.
Spanking and Aftercare
Although aftercare is something that's often considered to only be practiced in the BDSM community, every sexual engagement can benefit from aftercare. When your body and mind are taken to such great heights of pure ecstasy, afterward many of us sort of crash -- that explains why your partner might fall asleep right afterward.
But when it comes to rough sexual play, spanking, or otherwise, the post-sex nap needs to wait. Not only is there a crashing or feeling of falling that comes after intense, aggressive sex, but it can also lead to vulnerability. Because of this, you want to hold each other, cuddle, take special care of any wounds either of you got during your rough spanking sesh, and talk about the experience. Allow yourselves to melt into the moment after being so high. Take a shower or bath together, rehydrate, share your thoughts, and be completely present. Then, once you both feel settled, yet still enjoying that wave of those feel-good hormones, you can have that post-sex nap. Or, if you have it in you, go for round two!
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https://www.pleasureboxxx.co.nz/blogs/news/safer-practices-when-douching-with-a-shower-shot-bvibe2023-04-30T12:25:08+12:002023-04-30T12:26:48+12:00Safer Practices When Douching With a Shower Shot - BVIBEPleasure Boxxx
Safer Practices When Douching With a Shower Shot
Apr 27, 2023/ByBobby Box
Shower douches can be incredibly convenient but riskier than other cleansing methods. In this edition of Queeries, Bobby Box sprays his knowledge on how to douche with a shower shot safely.
While I generally caution against using them, I will confess that I do have a shower douche, or "shower shot." I casually dated a plumber early last year and, like magic, a douche nozzle suddenly appeared next to my shower head.
Douching has been easy breezy ever since, and myanal preparationtime has reduced by at least 50 percent. I'm reluctant to say that I'm a fan of this convenient contraption because shower shots do carry significantlymore risk than your standard douche bulb. Knowing this, I made sure I did an exhaustive amount of research before I introduced this piece of hardware to my hole.
Unfortunately, I discovered that there is very little research on douching with a shower shot, and what little information I was able to scrape up was written by a blogger with little professional experience or background in anal health and anatomy. Fortunately, I'm close with some accredited anal experts and doctors who have more or less acted as Jedis throughout my journey from gayby to power bottom.
To create the credible resource ambitious bottoms deserve, I spoke with anorectal surgery and sexual health PA, Jonathan Baker, to speak on the risks and safer practices when using a shower shot.
WHAT IS A SHOWER SHOT?
Let's start with the basics: What the hell is a shower shot? Well,Urban Dictionaryhas a surprisingly detailed definition, describing the shower shot as a "douching system that ties into a main waterline by a diverter flow valve at the threaded connection between the shower head and the water spout."
Essentially, it is a hose and nozzle that connects directly to your shower head. Installing one is fairly straightforward, but if you need guidance, there are dozens of tutorials on the internet. Some are even filmed by your favorite OnlyFans creators if you want some eye candy distracting you from your lesson.
WHAT ARE THE RISKS OF HAVING A SHOWER SHOT?
Now, while convenient, shower shots are definitely not for beginners, as they can be difficult to regulate the water pressure and temperature. These factors make your sensitive rectum more susceptible to serious issues like distention (prolapse), which can occur when either using too much liquid or forcing liquid in too quickly. Think of it like you're over-filling a water balloon, but instead of latex, it's your much more valuable rectum.
"I routinely recommend against the use of shower attachments because they are hard to control and there is simply no way to know what is happening internally," Baker says. "Besides, no matter what you do, there will always be some stool bacteria on the skin. Having a pristine anus is simply impossible."
Baker, like many in his profession, generally cautions against douching in any form unless it's completely necessary, since introducing water into the anal canal removes the natural mucus of the rectum, which makes the area drier when you want to do the opposite. Douching also disrupts the anal microbiome, which reduces the integrity of your anal lining. Both of these outcomes make your anal canal more susceptible to scratches,tears, and infection, including STIs.
"Anal sex rarely causes hemorrhoids, but enema use commonly does," Baker adds, mentioning that if you are to douche, he recommends using a smallenema bulband supplementing with fiber. "Among my patients to get hemorrhoids from sex, they also consistently report having prepared for sex with an enema, and shower attachments are often the culprit."
For these reasons, only folks who are very well-versed inbottomingand anal anatomy should even consider using a shower shot. Think of the shower shot as a bottom's hygienic equivalent offisting.
SHOWER SHOT SAFER PRACTICES
The first thing you want to do with your shower shot is to familiarize yourself with the way it works, especially the unit's water pressure valve. See how sensitive it can be, as even the slightest twist of the valve can cause the device to erupt with enough pressure to powerwash your ceiling.
Baker says that if you were to hold the nozzle vertically, you want the water to spout no higher than an inch, so make sure that is the case before introducing it to your butt.
Given that the rectum is roughly six to seven inches long, you should only need half a cup to one cup of water to clean any debris in the rectum. "Anything more than that might get forced upward and dislodge unformed stool further up in the intestines, which isn't necessary unless you're getting fisted or using larger toys," Baker says.
When it comes to utilizing the nozzle, you have a couple of options. First, you can rest the nozzle against the anus and allow the water to work itself inside the rectum. I've personally found this is much easier to do in the squatting position as it naturally spreads the cheeks and opens the anus.
Second, you an insert the nozzle no more than an inch or two, just beyond the sphincter muscles, until you deduce that you've introduced roughly half a cup to a cup full of water inside the rectum. Use asilicone-based lubeto help with insertion, as most nozzles are thick and made of hard metal.
Again, it's important to play around with your shower shot before using it so that you have a better understanding of how long it takes to fill a cup to a cup's worth of water. Practice makes perfect, and the state of your hole is at stake, so don't play around. If you feel discomfort or cramping after douching, it means you've used too much water.
Baker says the liquid should be kept in the rectum for around a minute. Keeping the liquid in too long can result in it traveling upward into the intestines, which, again, may dislodge unformed stool and cause discomfort or cramping.
As you might have gathered, less is more in the matters of anal douching. The less liquid that comes in and out, the better. Baker says that with proper hydration and fiber supplementation, most people should require no more than three rinses in a session. As for the water's temperature, aim to keep it lukewarm. Too hot can burn and irritate the area, and too cold can cause cramping. You should also test the temperature with your hand before putting it anywhere near your rectum.
It cannot be emphasized enough that the shower comes with more risk than other douching methods. During our chat, Baker shared with me that he had two patients with bad hemorrhoids from overusing a shower just that week. So consider this guide to safer practices an effort at harm reduction. I just want what's best for your bum.
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https://www.pleasureboxxx.co.nz/blogs/news/how-to-talk-to-your-partner-about-pegging2022-04-28T12:52:00+12:002022-04-28T12:52:00+12:00HOW TO TALK TO YOUR PARTNER ABOUT PEGGINGPleasure Boxxx
So, you have a cisgender man in your life, and you want to peg him? God bless! Men's butts deserve just as much love as cisgender women, trans, and nonbinary booties! All too often they're ignored—and I, for one, will not stand for it!
Your man may be a tad bit reluctant to have any form of anal play on him, especially if he's straight. Straight, cisgender men have been conditioned to believe that if anything goes near their butts, and they like it, then they must be gay or bisexual. This is fake news! Enjoying anal play has nothing to do with sexual orientation (or gender for that matter) and all to do with maximizing pleasure and having a powerful sexual experience with your partner.
* The techniques discussed in this article & video are applicable to any prostate owner regardless of gender identity. The experiences reflected are those of the author's personal experience but are not excluding of other gender identities.
Of course, if your partner has zero interest and the idea scares him half to death, then it's probably not going to happen. You can't force your partner to do anything they don't want to do. That said, some men are on the fence and can use a little convincing. I know I was the first time my girlfriend spoke about her desire to peg me all those years ago.
In fact, when she said she wanted to peg me, my response was immediate: "Absolutely fucking not."
"Whyyyyyyyy?" she asked.
I explained how I have IBS, and it sounded painful. Then I told her about the one time I tried bottoming that went disastrously. She replied by saying she understood but that she would really love to peg me, so I should keep an open mind. I agreed, and her not-so-subtle inception took. I kept thinking about her pegging me, so I tried sticking my fingers up my butt while in the shower. I wanted to see how that would feel.
I did not enjoy it. I told her that it didn't feel good, and she told me I was doing it all wrong. I was making it too clinical. Before putting anything up my rear end, I need to be aroused, and I need to use lube, not conditioner.
READ: b-Vibe Founder Alicia Sinclair Reveals the Best Anal Lube for Every Occasion
"Here, let me show you," she said. Then she started going down on me, and once I was erect and insanely turned on, she told me she was going to stick in a finger, and I agreed. Once I relaxed, it felt amazing. She gently massaged my prostate while blowing me, and when I orgasmed, my eyeballs rolled back to the head, like I was experiencing an exorcism. It was one of the strongest, most full-body climaxes I'd ever had. From there, it didn't take long until she was pegging me, and that was just—spectacular.
If it wasn't for her, I don't if I ever would have tried being pegged. (Alright, that's probably not true. Likely another partner would have convinced me. Still, though!)
I share my story to illustrate that sometimes, your boyfriend, husband, or partner might need a little push. So here are some tips that'll get your partner excited about the prospect of getting pegged.
You'll notice that this article assumes your partner is a cisgender man. I did this because 1) cis men have prostates and 2) they have been conditioned by society to think that anal play on them is "gay." That said, if your non-binary or trans partner also holds these incorrect heteronormative beliefs, then feel free to use these tips with them too!
1. Emphasize the pleasure for him.
Getting pegged is an experience. First off, it feels incredible physically. That's because cisgender men have a prostate, a walnut-sized gland located 2-3 inches inside the rectum. The prostate is jam-packed with nerve-endings, so it feels incredibly pleasurable when stimulated. When you orgasm while experiencing prostate stimulation or having something inside your rectum, it leads to massive, full-body orgasms.
Typically, when a man ejaculates, the pleasure is localized to his genitals. But when you have a prostate-induced orgasm, you feel the orgasm everywhere. You feel it in your left elbow and your right eyeball. You feel electricity pulse down your spine and throughout your entire body. From what I've gathered, it feels more similar to how cisgender women report experiencing orgasms. So explain how you want him to feel that pressure!
You can also note how it's a unique psychological experience. If your boyfriend has only topped (being the insertive partner), then he's never felt what it's like having something inside of him. Getting penetrated is a completely different sensation, one that clearly, most women love. Otherwise, you wouldn't be having sex! It is intense, gratifying, and something he should experience at some point in his life.
2. Express what you get out of it.
Maybe if he won't do it for his pleasure, he'll consider doing it for your pleasure. That's what got me into pegging. My girlfriend made it clear it's something she loved, and I wanted to make her happy. Explain how you want to experience the power that comes with topping and being more dominant. You want to get turned on seeing him moan in ecstasy. You want to feel what it's like having a penis (or whatever else is driving your pegging desire)!
3. Explain how pegging can be intimate.
I think there's this idea that pegging is always kinky or intense. It definitely can be, don't get me wrong. You can just go to town on the poor, innocent little behind, but that's not what you plan to do (at least not yet).
You want to have a more tender moment. You don't plan to just ram it in there. Heavens no. You plan to take it slow, look into each other's eyes, and make love. I know it sounds kinda silly. But yes, you can make love while pegging! I think making it clear that this will be a loving, intimate experience where you two feel more connected afterward can lay some of his worries to rest.
4. Plan to start small.
Make it clear that you're not going to start with pegging. That is way too much if he's never had anything in his rectum before. Honestly, I think it's effective to do what my girlfriend did.
Start with an anal massage or someanal fingeringwhen you go down on him, and then put in a little pinky. Get him to orgasm while your finger is inside of him. If he allows himself to relax, he'll likely love it. From there, you can slowly work your way to bigger and better things before eventually whipping out the strap-on.
Alright, I am not a fan of withholding sex as a form of punishment or motivation. That's really unhealthy behavior; it causes stress, pushes your partner away, and creates a harmful and imbalanced power dynamic. But in this one situation, I think it's okay to illustrate his hypocrisy. If he loves having anal sex with you, you can say that he doesn't get to be up in your booty again until you get to put a pinky in his! It's only fair, am I right? This needs to be expressed playfully, and of course, don't punish yourself. I mean, you still want anal, too! But I think you can point out the hypocrisy.
At the end of the day, your partner may not want to have anything up his rear end. Sad, I know, but if he really doesn't want to, you can't pressure him. That said, there's no harm in asking and expressing how much it would mean to you if he gave it an old college try. Who knows? He may eventually come around to it.
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https://www.pleasureboxxx.co.nz/blogs/news/what-is-pegging2022-04-28T12:49:19+12:002022-04-28T12:49:19+12:00WHAT IS PEGGING?Pleasure BoxxxWhat is pegging? What does it feel like? How do I get started? Sex educator Gigi Engle reveals the best pegging positions and answers everything there is to know about using a strap-on for anal penetration.
If you haven't heard of pegging yet, it's time you got familiar with this (still pretty) fringe sex act. Why? Because it's 2022 and about time we had some exciting, gender-stereotype defying sex acts to stick in our proverbial sexual pockets.
From bringing up the *novel idea* of anal sex with a dildo in casual conversation to anal sex positions for the newbies, here is some important information to start you on your journey into pegging. Or, at the very least, make you the most awkward guest at the dinner party when you decide to share your newfound ideas over cocktails.
What is pegging?
Let's start at the very beginning. It is, after all, a very good place to start and definitions are our friends! Pegging is anally penetrating someone with a strap-on.
A strap-on is a dildo secured in place by a harness. A strap-on gives a person without a penis a chance to see what's it's like to have a penis. I don't know you, but that was certainly the appeal for me.
The person on the receiving end gets a chance to explore anal penetration while both people get a chance to get curious about power dynamics, anal pleasure, and newfound sexual terrain.
Where did pegging come from?
The term "pegging" first gained its permanent place in our cultural vocabulary in a poll conducted by sexpert and podcast host, Dan Savage, wherein he asked listeners what the sexually ascribed word should be for getting it up the bum with a strap-on.
While people were definitely pegging before it was called pegging, this is how the act found its way into the cultural zeitgeist. The rest, as they say, is history. So...
Why isn't pegging mainstream?
While pegging is beginning to make its way into our cultural lexicon (lookin' at you, Broad City), people, in general, are still pretty... well... f-ing weird about it. Why? Why else? STIGMA. Ugh.
While many women are hopping on the chance to experience the "giving" portion of anal sex and play, a lot of (mostly) cis-dudes are still freaked out about you "compromising their manhood."
There's also this idea that trying pegging could make you less of a man (or weak or gay or whatever). We're super tired of hearing that (and pegging is WIRED). Like all sex acts, pegging is only something to explore if both you and your partner are interested in trying it. Enthusiastic consent is the root of all pleasure.
Who can try pegging?
Now, don't be in here thinking that pegging is only for heterosexual cis-gender couples. Pegging is accessible for one and all, regardless of gender or body parts. After all, Every Body Has A Butt! It is the universally shared sex organ for one and all humans on this, the Planet Earth. But then...
Does pegging make you gay?
Ah, the question so many people seem to ask: Does pegging (or anal play) make my boyfriend or partner gay?
To be frank: No. Enjoying anal penetration does not make you gay. If you get it up the butt and then decide, "Hey, I'm gay now!", let us reassure you, it was not because you were anally penetrated.
If your partner wants to try pegging, it has nothing to do with their sexual preferences with regard to their gender. So, let's leave that nonsense at the (back)door, OK?
Pegging is about power dynamics and pleasure, not gayness. "I find the role reversal very sexy," says Danny, 25. "When my wife pegs me, it gives me an opportunity to see her as the dominant one. Since I'm usually in that role, giving up control and letting her take the lead is a huge turn on."
Michael, 32, agrees: "I get so much pleasure from having my ass stimulated. I don't care if society wants to call it weird. I'm not gay. I'm a man with a prostate and I like receiving anal sex, too.
In short, anal penetration is something we can all enjoy and explore. It's sort of like the ultimate equalizer, giving every person a chance to experience the role of giver and receiver. What could be more beautiful than that?
What does pegging feel like?
"It's overwhelming in a good way," Danny tells us. "It may feel unusual because if you're straight man, you're probably not used to having things inside of you. It's a very new feeling."
Pegging is often described as a feeling of fullness or intense pressure. For those who enjoy it, it can ignite the anal opening, a nerve-rich pleasure center for male and female bodies alike.
Another thing pegging is great for — prostate orgasms. If you're not quite ready for penetration yet, you can get started with something as simple as an anal massageor analingus.
As cis-males and trans-women have prostates, pegging can be a great way to get the prostate involved. The P-spot is a walnut-shaped gland a few inches inside of the anal opening. Its primary function is to create prostate fluid, a key component in semen. For whatever reason, prostate stimulation can really up the ante on male-bodied pleasure. It's like a secret hot-zone that society is super afraid of!
The goddesses of the universe decided to put the male G-spot inside of the butthole and then we all decided that it wasn't OK to go up there. If you ask us, that makes no sense whatsoever.
How do I get started with pegging?
Here's your pegging 101 masterclass:
1. Communication
Make the conversation about the two of you. This isn't about "you", it's about "we." You should want to explore pegging as both someone that is interested in being the giver, and also as someone that is excited to have their partner be the receiver.
If your partner says no, then you need to be OK with that. Good sexual experiences are built on pleasure, trust, and communication not solely based upon one person's desires.
2. Know the essentials of anal play
Before you go jumping into anal play, be sure you know the basics. Start with hygiene. You don't have to douche in order to try pegging, but some people prefer it. If you want to douche beforehand, use a classic bulb enema like this one. If this doesn't appeal to you, just be sure to take a shower beforehand and have a solid before movement one or two hours before receiving anal.
Now, keep in mind that there will likely be some poop. Come to terms with this. You're dealing with a butt hole after all and poop comes out of butt holes. This is a normal and totally OK thing. Expecting to put something up a butt and having it be as clean as a whistle is unrealistic. Seeing some poop while participating in anal can be a little traumatizing. It's just a little poop. Move on and go forth.
Get yourself some reliable, water-based lubricant. Silicone lube is more slippery, but if you use it with a silicone dildo, you can do some serious damage to the toy. We recommend this natural water-based lubricantand lube shooter. We're also big fans of using coconut oil as lubeas a whole.
If you're practicing pegging with multiple partners, be sure to use condoms on your dildo. This will help with both hygiene and to avoid spreading STIs.
Now that you have your lube and have had the consenting conversation with your partner, you are ready to try anal pleasure. Start SLOWLY. The anus is a set of muscles. It doesn't naturally stretch or lubricate the way a vagina does. So you'll need to work up to full-on anal sex.
If you haven't tried anal penetration before, we recommend getting started withanal training. There are specialized kits that include dildos that gradually increase in size to help you to take larger objects in a safe, comfortable way.
You can try anal play alone or with a partner, depending on your preference. It can be easier for some people to try it alone at first in order to remove some of the nervousness of being with someone else in a vulnerable state, but this is subjective. Do what works for you!
4. Buy the right gear for pegging
Once you're ready for pegging, you'll need the right stuff. Luckily, we've taken all the guessing out of the process. Check out these 'Strap-On Anal Sets.' — These pegging sets come with everything you'll need: a strap-on, a harness, and a dildo.
FIRST-TIMER? Read our beginner's guide to every type of anal sex toy!
Sometimes getting the right gear can be the most intimidating part of trying something new. There's no room for being nervous when you're off exploring new ways to experience sexual pleasure!
The best pegging positions for beginners
We asked our readers to share their favorite pegging positions (when they first started), and here are the three best pegging positions that came out on top:
1. Spooning
Lay behind your partner and enter them from the spoon position. Depending on your height difference, you can put a pillow or two under their hips to elevate them for easy access on their side. Remember: TAKE IT SLOW.
They can back into you or you can give it to them. Allow the receiver to be the one in control of the speed and depth of penetration. Even though you might be "topping," it's the person taking the dildo that needs to control this aspect of pegging, as they are the one who has the potential for pain if something is done incorrectly.
2. Flat doggy style
Regular doggy style can seem like the "given," but it's actually a difficult position to maneuver if you're not a practiced pegging. Have your partner lie on their stomach. Enter them from behind. You'll almost be lying on top of them. This makes deeper penetration easier and more comfortable. This position can be a bit of an upper arm workout, but it's very hot.
3. Cowboy/Cowperson
If your partner would prefer to be on top, lie on your back and have them climb on top. They can lower themselves onto the dildo at their own speed, which can help with the control of depth and speed. This position is super interesting because it gives you a whole new appreciation of having your partner on top. Go ahead and explore with your own pegging positions!
Anal aftercare
As with all sexual experiences, aftercare is important. What is anal aftercare? This is when you and your partner have a chance to cuddle, talk, and recap everything that happened.
Aftercare is important because it allows us to get a good understanding of our partner's headspace. Sex can be beautiful, confusing, hot, scary, and very emotionally raw. Communication and checking-in is a vital part of the process.
When it comes to pegging, this is especially vital. This was a new experience for both of you and you want to get a clear understanding of how your partner felt about it, how you felt about it, and what you both want to do (or not to do) on your next pegging experience. This is a time for love and tenderness, not judgment.
Remember, you're in this together and you want your sexual experiences together to be positive. Take time to connect and care for each other emotionally. This is how we all have better, more fulfilling sexual experiences.
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https://www.pleasureboxxx.co.nz/blogs/news/how-to-have-a-prostate-orgasm2022-04-28T12:44:30+12:002022-04-28T12:44:30+12:00HOW TO HAVE A PROSTATE ORGASMPleasure Boxxx
HOW TO HAVE A PROSTATE ORGASM
prostate stimulation
If you have a prostate or have a partner who has one, you've probably wondered what all the buzz is about hitting the P-spot (the male equivalent of the female G-spot).
Prostate stimulation is one way to expand your pleasure possibilities, and it can have some incredible health benefits too! Whether you're looking to experience deeper orgasms or to release toxins from your body, milking your prostate is something to consider in your solo or partnered anal play.
We rounded up the best sex educators to create the most comprehensive and inclusive guide on prostate orgasms.
WHAT IS THE PROSTATE?
The prostate (also known as the P-spot) is a walnut-sized gland in the male reproductive system. It produces a milky-like fluid that combines with sperm to form ejaculate.
Stimulating or "hitting the P-spot" can lead to intense full-body orgasms, according to prostate-play lovers.
WHERE IS THE PROSTATE LOCATED?
The prostate rests below the bladder and next to the rectum, and you can feel it through the rectum's front wall.
To find the P-spot, insert an anal toy or finger about 2-4 inches (5-10 cm) and angle it towards your belly button. When aroused, your prostate will fill up with prostatic fluid and become easier to find. It'll also become more sensitive to touch, but more on that in a second!
WHY DOES PROSTATE STIMULATION FEEL GOOD?
Prostate play and anal play can add new elements to your sex life. The great thing about prostate play is that regardless of your sexuality, you can still enjoy it if you are a penis owner.
However, a lot of men are hesitant about receiving anal pleasure and experiencing prostate orgasms. And some even wonder if it makes them gay. Enjoying prostate stimulation has nothing to do with your sexual preference or identity; it merely means that you're open-minded and explorative enough to feel a different type of orgasm.
WHAT DOES A PROSTATE ORGASM FEEL LIKE?
Many people who've experienced prostate orgasms describe it as being similar to when they're about to have an orgasm from the genitals.
Others describe it as a more intense or full-bodied orgasm that's comparable to how vulva owners describe their G-spot orgasms. Like G-spot orgasms, a P-spot orgasm can offer an emotional and deeper sense of release, and orgasmic responses and muscle contractions that resonate further in the body.
But keep in mind, no two orgasms are alike and don't get too caught up in anticipating the sensations in advance! P-spot and G-spot play require practice before you see the fireworks. When you do, you'll discover that it is worth the effort.
"Trying butt stuff for the first time can feel scary or uncomfortable if you're not in the right mindset, especially if you're working through all those silly taboos about having a penis and enjoying booty penetration."
prostate stimulation 101
BEFORE YOU GET STARTED
Before you jump into the deep end, here's a checklist of things you need to consider:
Trying butt stuff for the first time can feel scary or uncomfortable if you're not in the right mindset, especially if you're working through all those silly taboos about having a penis and enjoying booty penetration.
Thankfully, you can enjoy prostate stimulation without having to go all the way up. There are thousands of ultra-sensitive nerve endings around the entry of your butt, both inside and out, which makes stuff likeanalingus or massaging that region feel amazing. Bonus: Sweeten the deal by combining eating ass withanal fingering and see sparks fly! It's also a fantastic way to warm up for anal penetration.
GETTING INSIDE AND HITTING THE PROSTATE
The other way to stimulate the P-spot is by getting your lubricant ready and lathering up your finger. Remember to trim your nails, keep them clean, and use some gloves if you prefer them for anal fun.
Start by inserting one finger. The prostate should feel like a ripe plum: firm, with a little give to it. If you can't find it, try adding some familiar pleasure like oral sex or an erotic massage first. Arousal makes the prostate begin to fill up and get more substantial, which makes it both easier to find and feel more pleasurable.
Once you've found the prostate gland, there are a lot of different massage moves you can try. Many of these will sound similar to G-spot massage techniques:
STROKE THE PROSTATE
Try doing a "come hither" motion with your fingertip. Use the pad of the finger, not the tip, to avoid scratching. And remember - stroke, don't poke! Keep a slow, steady rhythm, and use firm pressure. You might need to vary the tempo and pressure until you find the right combination, so start slower and lighter, and then add more. If you're using two fingers, try the "come hither" motion at the same time, or try "finger walking".
TAP THE P-SPOT
Another popular move to induce a prostate orgasm is through tapping. Start with the pressure you use when typing on a keyboard and try going faster or slower. Each time you change things up, ask him to tell you if it feels better or not. Everyone is a little different, so listen to feedback and watch how the body responds. If you have two fingers on the P-spot, you can tap them together or alternate as if you're playing the piano.
CIRCLE THE P-SPOT
You can also do big circles across the entire prostate, little circles on just one spot, or do little circles and move them around. With circles, it's easy to go too quickly, so try to keep a steady rhythm. Some people like to put on some music with a strong beat or bass line to help them keep the pace.
MIX UP YOUR PROSTATE MASSAGING TECHNIQUE
Don't forget that stillness can be incredibly pleasurable too. Keep a constant pressure without movement, or try gently pulsing the pressure while maintaining contact. Sometimes, that can be someone's favorite prostate massage move.
Just as when you're giving someone a shoulder rub, it's good to do one technique for a bit and then change it up. The nerves get used to it if you stick with one thing, so keep paying attention to signals by varying what you do every so often. The one exception to that is when your partner is getting close to a prostate orgasm. When that happens, stick with whatever is working.
"There’s no refractory period involved with prostate orgasms, so you can spend all day pleasuring this amazing organ."
PROSTATE STIMULATION 101: USE AN ANAL TOY
There are all sorts ofanal toys to bring the pleasure of prostate stimulation into your solo or coupled love life.
However, it can be tough to narrow down and choose just one anal toy, especially if you're just getting started, but have your sights set on working your way up in size to a larger toy or penis. OurAnal Training Kit is the perfect solution for the dedicated anal adventurer. This kit contains three essential silicone plugs that feature graduated tapered shapes and come in three progressive sizes.
ARE THERE ANY HEALTH BENEFITS OF PROSTATE STIMULATION?
Studies have shown that regularly milking the P-spot for prostate orgams, or massaging the prostate to release prostatic fluid, can help reduce the risk of prostate cancer. Releasing prostate fluid also flushes out the gland, and relieves inflammation and pressure in the pelvic area. Increasing blood flow in the area can also increase elasticity, strengthen the pelvic floor, and help prevent erectile challenges over time.
KEEP ON COMIN’
Now before you go, remember that there’s no refractory period involved with prostate play, so you can spend all day pleasuring this amazing organ. (Just make sure your neighbors are out of earshot!).
Analingus, rimming, ass eating, tossing salad, cracker snacker, butt licking — whatever you want to call it, it's what people are looking to learn more about. It's time to face it, folks. EverythingBUTT is IN and we are so here for it.
Have you been wondering about ass eating? That was a rhetorical question. We know the answer is yes. You probably have questions, comments, and concerns that you want addressed, but aren't sure how to broach. How does one ask, "How do I perform analingus?" or "How do I take care of my breath once my mouth and tongue have made contact with a butthole?" A valid question, but maybe one you don't want to bring up in casual conversations.
Luckily you have us to do all the ‘splaining in the butt region. Here is absolutely everything, and we do mean everything, you ever wanted to know about analingus. You know you wanna know.
AND SO WE BEGIN
what is analingus?
You might not even be aware of what analingus is, or perhaps you've heard of it, but aren't exactly sure what it entails. That's alright. You're not alone. It's what you might have guessed from the nickname "ass eating," it means licking a butt!
"Analingus is quite simply put — oral stimulation of the anus — and it can be enjoyed by people of any gender or sexual orientation. Also known as rimming, it involves stimulation of the anus such as gently kissing, licking, or even sucking. It's anything that falls under the oral-to-anal category," explainsAlicia Sinclair, certified sex educator, founder and CEO ofb-Vibe.
Why would someone want to do/receive this? Well, it's simple, actually. The anal opening is a very nerve-dense area. You can have a ton of anal-centric pleasure without having to put a seven inch dildo up your butt. You can do that, but you don't have to. Most of the anus' nerves are right there in the first few inches.
QUICK QUESTION FROM THE PEANUT GALLERY
does analingus make you gay?
The only thing that makes you gay is being gay. If you put something in your ass and decide you're gay, well, it's not because you put something in your ass. Nothing can "make" you gay. This is a myth that has scared straight men, questioning men, and queer men away from enjoying anal play for far too long. It's a travesty!
"Analingus makes you realize there are pleasure centers outside of your penis that are worth examining. If you want to experience your full range of orgasms, worry about not discovering all the mind melting joys your body can enjoy," says says Daniel Saynt, sexpert and founder ofNSFW.
ON A MORE PRACTICAL NOTE
is analingus safe?
BACTERIA
This is a legitimate question that should be asked. The anus is where poop exits. You have to be careful. "Digestive bacteria and parasites such as E.coli and Salmonella can be transferred from the butt to other body parts and pleasure tools during anal play," Sinclair says. "It's important to keep that in mind to avoid infection by being careful not to ‘double-dip' — meaning that you shouldn't participate in any back-and-forth use of your sex toys, tongue, fingers, or penis. This also applies to ass-to-mouth (ATM) action." Stick to butt stuff or vagina stuff and don't cross over.
STIs
You can definitely contract STIs from analingus, the same ways you can from any other forms of sexual plays.
"A dental dam is your best option to engage in oral ass play and stay safe. You can protect yourself from STI's like hepatitis A or B, genital warts, herpes, syphilis, and gonorrhea by using the latex square created for this specific purpose," Sinclair explains.
DENTAL DAM
A Dental Dam is specially designed as an effective barrier for use during sex. It's typically a soft, silky thin 10 x 6 natural rubber latex sheet that is often lightly scented.
Lola Jean, a sex educator and professional domme says that dental dams need to be used with caution. "Dental dams are a bit easier to use on a flatter surface (i.e. thevulva) than it is on a crevice like the anus," she says. "While it is possible you should be cautious and check if the placement has shifted during use. Also if you have a cold sore, you should not perform oral on anyone without protection as you run the risk of spreading the herpes".
how to talk to your partner about analingus
IFYOU BRING IT UP
Talking about trying a new sex thing can be scary; talking about something as socially "taboo" as licking someone's butt can be even scarier. No one wants to be told they're a freak, right? We also highly recommend that you trysolo anal masturbationfirst.
"It's always a good idea to bring up new sexual interests in a place outside the bedroom — essentially you don't want to put any pressure on your partner to try something new on the spot. Instead, try bringing up your new sexual adventure in a relaxed environment and present it as an invitation. Perhaps, "I read this article about how pleasurable ass eating can be and I'd really like to try it with you," Sinclair says. "Don't expect an answer right away. Give your partner time to think it over and ask more questions. Remember, the more open you are about what turns you on — and what turns your partner on — the deeper and more connected your sexual relationship will become."
IFTHEY BRING IT UP
If your partner has broached the ass eating topic (and maybe that's why you're reading this comprehensive analingus guide in the first place), remember to approach them with empathy, no matter how you feel about analingus.
"Analingus isn't going to be for everyone — and that's totally okay. There is no right or wrong way to enjoy sex — as long as it's between two consenting adults," Sinclair explains. "As always, give your partner the benefit of entertaining their sexual wish list and trying everything once. Consent is always imperative though, so if your partner is a hard no you'll have to respect that too. Maybeproducts that replicate oral sex on the anuscould be the perfect compromise."
ANAL HYGIENE: IS THERE EVER A TIME TO RECONSIDER?
As with all sex acts, sometimes you want to engage, and other times you don't. If there is something medical, abnormal, or … (sorry to say it, but sometimes you have to) gross happening down in your butt area, ass eating probably shouldn't be on the menu tonight.
"This might seem like common sense, but JICYMI — make sure to tell your partner if you have an upset stomach, diarrhea, bleeding, or any open sores. If your goal is to have a healthy, respectful, pleasure-filled anal play session, it's best to provide this info upfront so that an informed decision can be made beforehand," Sinclair suggests.
what's the dealio with hairy butts and analingus?
As Shakespeare once said: To remove or not to remove one's ass hair, that is the question. Basically, there is no right answer. It's all about what you feel comfortable doing. "Hair is all about personal preference," Saynt says, "If you want to have your partner enjoy eating ass as much as you will, ask them what they prefer and consider complying to get what you desire."
ANALINGUS PROS AND CONS TO CONSIDER.
"Some people are into the texture, scent and the sight of body hair," Saynt says. "Some prefer the field to be cleared." Ask your partner what they're into and consider what you like. If you're not down to shave or wax your b-hole, you don't have to. Earthy and natural can be sexy.
Another thing to consider is STIs. When you wax or remove hair from any part of your body, you create microabrasions, tiny tears in the skin that aren't visible to the naked eye. This can increase your likeliness ofcontracting and STI by up to 80 percent. Something to think about.
Ok, we can start with the obvious thing: Dingleberries. Yes, poop flakes can get stuck in the butt hairs. To avoid this, simply be sure you're washing your butt crack thoroughly with a mild soap and warm water before engaging in anal play. Actually, this should be a rule in general.
Check in with your partner and collaborate on an ass eating playing field that you can both get behind (literally). In most cases, your partner probably won't care either way.
GIMME THE GOODS
how to prepare for anal play
First of all, you want to be sure you're tidied up back there. See above where we talked about cleaning your butt crack. You want to be sure you're cleaning out the area so your partner's likeliness of coming in contact with fecal matter decreases. Unless it's a person's fetish, no one is trying to eat poop, ya hear?
"Prepare yourself ahead of time if you know butt play is going to be on the menu. Make sure you're ready for it," Saynt says. If you know analingus might be coming, be ready. You can do an enema if you'd like to, but it's not necessary. Again, this is about personal preference. If you do decide to do an enema,read this first.
"Get a baby wipe or wet towel to clear around the area," Jean tells us. She suggests starting with a nice "anal massage" to get the area warmed up before any type of play. "For anal massage you can roll your fist and knuckles around on all parts of the butt, crack included," she explains. "This will help the person receiving become more relaxed but also begin to stimulate the area making it more receptive to touch."
Be sure you have lots of lube on hand and ready to go with any kind of anal play, especially if your ass eating may be accompanied by some butt toys or anal sex. When it comes to ass play, the more lube the better.
flavored lubes for analingus
ARE WE INTO IT?
Flavored lubes are basically the must-have of analingus. Not to put pressure on you. Obviously it's about what you're into, but it makes the experience more appetizing for those who enjoy ass eating, and maybe don't love the taste of it. Hey, it comes with the territory.
"I definitely suggest some flavored lube for analingus. It's a great way to make the experience last longer. System JO produces a full line of products which include cafe flavors, desserts and organic options," Saynt tells us. Add some sweetness to your plate with thisVanilla Lubeor aStrawberry Flavored Lube.
Jean says flavored lubes are fine, just be sure there aren't a bunch of gross additives or chemicals in the ingredients, as this can cause irritation.
When it comes to analingus, you want your partner to be comfortable (aka: Not smothered). "The most comfortable for your partner will be with you on your back," Saynt says. "Start with oral sex and then bring your legs up to make it easier to access your anus. This will allow your partner to control more of the experience." Do keep in mind that this position can put pressure on the bowel, leading to unexpected exits, if you know what we're saying. Be mindful!
It'll help if they have a pillow under their hips and if they bring their knees up to their chest. That gives maximum access, especially if the receiver is on a bed and the giver is kneeling on the floor.
You can also try it from behind, with the receiver on their elbows and knees or bent over the bed. Or try it with the giver lying on their back and the receiver straddling their face. It all depends on what works for your bodies.
And then for the even more advanced: "It's an especially fun experience if you have more than one play partner. It's hard to describe how good it feels to have sex with someone while someone else is teasing your anus. Almost like the cherry on top of a great sundae. It's the little extra that can really make playtime memorable," Saynt adds.
THE BEST OF THE BEST
analingus tips & techniques
As with blowjobs, you've got a few different choices when it comes to analingus techniques. Try making your tongue soft and lick across the entire anus, as if you were eating an ice cream cone.
CIRCLES
One of the best moves for rimming is to swirl the tip in a circle around the opening.
UP & DOWN
You can flick the tip up and down, right over the opening.
1/2 CIRCLES
Or try licking up one side of the anus, in a sort of semicircle, and then do the same on the other side.
PUSH
You can even push the tip of your tongue into the opening of the anus if you want.
Try different amounts of pressure, or experiment with using the tip of the tongue and then the flat surface. Have the receiver tell you what feels good for them. A scale of 1-10 (where 10 = amazing) is a good way to gauge what they enjoy. If they have trouble using the number scale, have them say "yes" when you find something that works.
Pay attention to the changes in the anus itself. When the receiver gets more aroused or when you find a move that really works for them, you might notice that the anus relaxes and expands a little bit. The pelvic floor might also relax and drop down towards your mouth. That's a good sign that their body is getting more turned on.
Can I use my teeth?!
Teeth are OK, as long as you know what you're doing. Don't go chomping down on someone's butthole. This area is very sensitive and the skin is tender. You could cause bleeding or pain. It's alright to nibble lightly, if your partner is into it.
"You can nibble at the anus a bit, but you'll want to be careful with too much pressure or breaking skin as the area is very sensitive and infection is easier in areas of our body where bacteria lives," Saynt says.
When it comes to biting, it's best to stick with the butt cheeks. They are meatier and can take a more rough play. Plus, there's no real risk of STI transmission.
What about my breath?
Also known as "booty breath," this can and will happen to everyone. When you're licking and f*cking a butthole, it seems only logical that your breath would wind up tasting like a butthole.
When you're finished getting into that butt, go and wash your mouth out with mouthwash.
And hands?
You'll definitely want to make sure your hands are in on this whole experience. "Use your hands to make it easier to get to your target. Spread cheeks and use your fingers to further stimulate the anus while rimming," Saynt suggests.
"Your hands can be cupping the outside of the butt, holding the hips to propel the person into or away from you, or sneaking around for some reach around action," Jean adds.
You can also eat your partner's ass and reach around for some clitoral or penis-play. This is a more advanced move so, if you're just beginning it might be easier to focus on your ass eating technique first.
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https://www.pleasureboxxx.co.nz/blogs/news/comfort-sex2022-04-28T12:37:33+12:002022-04-28T12:37:33+12:00COMFORT SEXPleasure BoxxxWhat is comfort sex? How do I have it? Sex educator Dirty Lola gives you a complete 101 on sex that will leave you feeling happy and satisfied!
We all have comfort foods. The no-frills dishes that are as delicious as they are easy to make. The foods that make us feel warm and cozy inside during times of high stress or grief. Comfort foods can be excellent self-care, but as the saying goes, man cannot survive on bread alone, so this is where comfort sex comes in. No, this isn't some new fad. You've probably been engaging in comfort sex. You just hadn't put a name to it. Comfort sex, much like its edible counterparty, serves to soothe. It is dependable and familiar sex. Sex that isn't fancy. Sex with a purpose. Nothing to wax poetic about but definitely sex that brings you peace along with pleasure.
Comfort sex will look different depending on the type of relationship and level of intimacy shared, but the common threads running throughout are trust and familiarity. So whether you're in a long-term relationship or flying solo, you can add comfort sex to your self-care arsenal.
Comfort Sex While Solo
If comfort sex needs familiarity and trust to soothe and pleasure truly, then having someone around who knows how your body works or at the very least can take directions and that you trust is vital. So how do you achieve that when you're single? I have three words for you, Friends With Benefits.
Having that person you can call or text to come over after a rough day for sex time is THE BEST. This person should be someone you enjoy and feel safe around and someone you don't have to worry about causing post-sex dramatic mess like your ex, don't call your ex. Put the phone down. They don't need to know you as a long-term lover, but you should communicate clearly and easily with this person. Last but not least, we never want to make anyone feel used (unless that's their kink) so make sure you're being honest about why you're calling and that they're down to be your comfort sex buddy.
Comfort Sex Doesn't Have to Be With Another Human
I often say you are your own best lover, and I wholeheartedly believe that. Masturbation can count as comfort sex, especially when you're using your fav sex toy. That toy or combination of toys that always gets you there. No experimentation, and nothing new and shiny. Just your trust buzzing buddy or buddies. Need inspiration? Well, you're reading this on b-Vibe - the home of the best anal sex toys. Or head on over to Le Wand to find the most incredible sex toys for vulva-owners and couples.
Need more than just sex toys to get you to the big O? Add your favorite porn or read that smut book you love for the 20th time. For another layer of cozy, turn down the lights and turn up your sexy song playlist.
Comfort Sex for Couples
Couples are always looking for new ways to spice things up and keep that relationship fire burning, and while that's all well and good, a healthy dose of predictability doesn't hurt either. Predictability isn't a bad thing, and in fact, comfort sex thrives on it. There is comfort in the familiar and the almost mechanical. I don't mean awful unfulfilling sex. I mean the sex you can have mindlessly in the wee hours of the morning or when you've been stirred awake late at night—the kind of sex that is effortless and feels like a meditation of sorts. Breathing together as clothes are removed, lube is applied, and bodies fit together. This kind of sex isn't exciting weekend away sex. This is I know exactly what you like and where you need me to touch sex.
Orgasms are Welcome but Not Necessary
I want to make one thing very clear. Comfort sex is about seeking pleasure as a whole, not just orgasming. While some folks need orgasms to feel that release into comfort, many don't need that. Experiencing closeness, the intimacy of curling up in someone's arms, your naked bodies pressed against each other can be just as satisfying as an orgasm, if not more so for some. The point is what will bring you relief and release. Is that an orgasm? Is it hours of touching and being worshiped? Is it twenty precious minutes alone with your wand a butt plug? Whatever it is, as long as it brings you comfort, you're doing it right.
Consent is Still Key
Consent is paramount in all things sex, and this includes consenting to be used for comfort. This may seem like a trivial thing to get consent for, but you really do need everyone to be on board when seeking comfort sex. If your partner or FWB is having their own struggles, you may not get the comfort you were seeking. If your partner or FWB is having their own struggles, you may not get the comfort you were seeking. Checking in to see if someone is emotionally available and ready is always a good look.
Comfort Sex Shouldn't Be Destructive
Comfort sex should be, well, comforting, and it shouldn't be an excuse to exercise destructive, unsafe behaviors. This means not reaching out to toxic exes or fuck folks that make you feel awful after interacting with them. You should still be practicing your safer sex protocols as well. This isn't sex for the simple sake of feeling good. You can feel good while you're being reckless, but how will you feel when it's over? Comfort sex should leave you feeling satisfied and happy, not filled with guilt regret.
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https://www.pleasureboxxx.co.nz/blogs/news/anal-hygiene-preparing-for-anal-sex2022-04-28T12:34:58+12:002022-04-28T12:34:58+12:00ANAL HYGIENE: PREPARING FOR ANAL SEXPleasure Boxxx
ANAL HYGIENE: PREPARING FOR ANAL SEX
Anal sex is genuinely having a moment. Never in recent history has butt play been talked about so openly or actively. Yet, there remains a ton of misinformation, negative stigma, and unfortunate first-time experiences that continue to deter many folks from adding anal onto their pleasure menu.
The truth is that anal is a whole other option for pleasure and can produce some pretty mind-blowing orgasms. The key to making anal play pleasurable is education. It's not rocket science, but it does require preparation and knowledge. Read ahead to learn all our tips and tricks on anal hygiene and how to prepare for anal sex. We've got your backside covered.
NEW TO ANAL?
try it alone first!
When it comes to first time anal, feeling a finger, toy, or penis can be an unfamiliar sensation. Practicing solo anal play gives you the chance to be both the giver and the receiver, which is super helpful when you add another person to the mix.
Knowing how anal masturbation feels on both sides of the experience can make things work better when you're with a partner. A lot of people discover that they're better givers when they know what it's like to receive, and vice versa.
Read our guide onhow to anal masturbate and learn how to get started with solo anal play. But before you go check that out, you'll want to learn how to prep for anal play first!
5 anal hygiene tips
THAT YOU SHOULD MASTER
Anal hygiene is one of the most common concerns that people have about anal play. Type in "Anal Hygiene" or "How do porn stars prepare for anal?" on Google, Quora or Reddit, and you'll find the same tips shared over and over again.
Prepping for anal is simple and comes down to common sense. Here's our certified 5 step guide on how to prep for anal:
KEEP IT CLEAN BEFORE ANAL PLAY!
EASY CLEAN: Go to the bathroom 30-60 minutes before anal play. Empty your bowels and wash the anal area with regular soap and warm water. Unscented, hypoallergenic baby wipes are a great alternative. For most people, this method of cleaning is enough.
DEEP CLEAN: For the very best experience, make sure to do an enema 1-2 hours before anal play. You only need to use a couple cups of water because you’re just rinsing out the last 6-8 inches (15-20 cm) of the rectum. If you use too much water, you can stimulate your digestive system and make things messier.
You’ll want to use warm water, so check it against your wrist. Too cold and you’ll cramp. Too hot and you’ll irritate the tissues. Be sure to use water you’d drink. If you filter your tap water, use filtered water for an enema.
USE A TOWEL DURING ANAL
An easy way to help keep things clean is to put a towel down on the bed before you get started. It’ll stop your bedsheets from being stained and help collect any lube, body fluids, and fecal matter.
If anal play does get messy, the towel is there for you. After you've finished, fold your towel up and put it in the laundry.
TRY GLOVES FOR FOREPLAY
Although some people think they interrupt the flow of a date night, using gloves is an efficient way to keep anal play clean. They’re also perfect for giving ananal massage, which stimulates the erotic nerve endings located at the anal opening and prepares the body for penetration.
You can get a box of gloves at the drugstore, though they don’t always look super sexy. Tattoo artists use gloves that are thinner than medical gloves, and they come in black, which is a lot hotter.
"Never go from anal play to vaginal play without cleaning up first […], ‘double-dipping’ from the anus to vagina is a sure fire way to give yourself or your partner an unpleasant infection."
Latex gloves fit best and are often less expensive, but some people are sensitive to latex, especially for anal play. Plus, latex is not compatible with oils. Nitrile gloves work great, and you can use oil-based lubricants with them. There can be some variation in glove sizes, even within one box. If you put on a glove and it’s loose enough to have wrinkles, discard it and try a new one. Folds in the glove will irritate the anus.
Lastly, a lot of people discover that after a couple of awesome anal play sessions, watching a lover put on a glove becomes foreplay. Make it sexy by telling your partner how much fun you’re about to have with them. Tell them that you can’t wait to get your hands on them. It’ll make a big difference.
DON’T GO FROM BUTT TO VAG WITHOUT CLEANING UP!
Never, ever go from anal play to vaginal play without cleaning up first. It's perhaps one of the most important tips when it comes to anal hygiene.
'Double-dipping' from the anus to vagina is a sure-fire way to give yourself or your partner an unpleasant infection. If you’re going to have vaginal intercourse after anal play, make sure that lubricant, oil or body fluid doesn’t get transferred from the anus to around the vagina or onto the penis.
IF ANAL PLAY GETS MESSY, STAY CALM AND POSITIVE
While the anal hygiene tips above will reduce the chances of accidents, they can still happen, so it’s best to be realistic about that.
For some people, it means ending their sexual session. For others, it means cleaning up, taking a quick shower, and then doing something different once they get back into bed. You and your partner get to decide what feels best for you.
The important thing is not to get too freaked out about it. Yes, it can be a hassle. But it doesn’t have to turn into a disaster. Keep calm, clean things up, and move forward. If you make it a big deal, it becomes a big deal. If you stay calm, then it doesn’t become a disaster. Keeping a positive mindset will go a long way.
anal hygiene facts
Education on the subject of anal hygiene is super important, and that's why we've compiled the most frequently asked questions for you.
HOW DO I USE A DOUCHE/ENEMA?
Rinsing out can take some practice, so the first few times you do it give yourself plenty of time.
It's also a good idea to prep a couple of hours in advance if you can. Why? Because water can get trapped in the folds of the rectum and can take a little time to come out. So make sure to stay near a bathroom until it does.
STEP 1
Rinse the douche or enema that you’re using, wash the nozzle, and fill the bulb with warm water.
STEP 2
Screw the nozzle to the bulb and lubricate the nozzle.
STEP 3
Rest on your elbows and knees or lie on your side. Insert the nozzle and squeeze the bulb.
STEP 4
Hold the water for 10-15 seconds and release it into the toilet. You can repeat this step a few times if you like. You can try holding in the water while refilling the bulb. Repeat and then release all the water at once.
STEP 5
Cleanse the nozzle and bulb immediately with a mild soap. Let it dry, and then store away. Now you're ready to play!
BODY HAIR: SHOULD I SHAVE MY BUTT OR GO AU NATUREL?
As we wrote in our complete guide toanalingus, there is no right answer. It's all about what you feel comfortable doing.
PROS: Some people love the sight, scent, and even texture of body hair. Ask your partner what they're into and also consider what you like. If you're not down to shave or wax your b-hole, you don't have to.
CONS: Fecal matter. Yes, it can get stuck in your butt hair, but you can avoid this by simply washing your crack before anal play. That's the first golden rule of anal hygiene.
“Practicing safe sex also means arming yourself with knowledge about STIs and how to prevent them."
DIET: IS THERE ANYTHING I SHOULD EAT/AVOID BEFORE ANAL PLAY?
A healthy diet means better anal sex. And while there are no specific studies on food and anal play, it comes down to eating the right amount of protein and fiber. Protein hardens up the poop, but fiber makes it so that it’s not as challenging to push out. Fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and nuts are all excellent sources of fiber.
Avoid coffee, caffeinated drinks, or drinking an excessive amount of alcohol. Water is your best friend and will help keep your bowel movements regular.
SAFETY: IS IT OK TO HAVE ANAL WITHOUT A CONDOM?
Yes, but only if you are in a monogamous relationship and you and your partner have tested clean for STIs (sexually transmitted infections).
However, the truth is that anal sex without a condom is not 100% safe even if you’re both ‘clean.’ This is why our team of sex educators recommend practicing safe sex — Traditionally, folks think this only means using condoms and other barrier methods such as dental dams and gloves during sex and sexual activity, but it's about way more than that.
Practicing safe sex also means arming yourself with knowledge about STIs and how to prevent them. Knowing your status and learning how to have that all-important conversation with partners new and old about your STI status, preferred barriers and boundaries. Gives you a strong foundation to having an amazing anal play experience, while ensuring that everyone involved can make better choices for their health and safety.
Guide to safe sex — The things you wish you knew before having first-time anal sex
how to talk about anal
Now that you've mastered anal hygiene and decided that you want to try anal play, telling your partner is the next step. Below, we've gathered some tips on how to make that talk go as smooth as possible.
Don’t make anal a surprise!
While many people love anal sex and would enjoy adding it to their sexual repertoire, not everyone does. Some people have never tried it. Some people have tried it, and it didn't work out due to discomfort or pain. Others have had partners pressure them into it. And unfortunately, some people have experienced sexual trauma with anal play.
"Consent is vital in all play, and surprising your partner with a new sexual experience is never a good idea." -Alicia Sinclair, Certified Sex Educator & Founder of b-Vibe
Talk with your partner before anal play
The best time to bring up the topic is when you aren't having sex. If your partner isn't into anal play, for any reason, that talk will be a lot easier when there isn't a lot of erotic energy going on. One useful way to lead up to the conversation is to say something like:
"I'm sort of curious about anal sex, and I've been reading about it online. Is that something that you'd be interested in exploring?"
"One of the most common reasons for uncomfortable or painful anal play is not knowing how to do it right. You can offer your partner a lot of reassurance during your anal talk by telling them you’ve been doing your research."
Give your partner time to think about anal play
Some folks will be an enthusiastic yes. But others might need some time to think about it, especially if they've had uncomfortable experiences in the past. If their answer isn't an immediate yes, tell your partner that you don't want to pressure them at all. Ask them if they'd like to take some time to decide.
Be sure to give your partner that time. Don’t rush them and don’t try to “accidentally” include anal play when you have sex with them. You might find it easier to pick a time to circle back and see how they feel. Give them a few days or maybe a week before raising the topic again.
Offer them info on anal play
One of the most common reasons for uncomfortable or painful anal play is not knowing how to do it right. You can offer your partner a lot of reassurance during your anal talk by telling them that you've been doing your research.
Our anal play advice section covers over 25 different articles answering questions like: “Does anal hurt?”, “What is a butt plug?”, to more specific questions like: “I’m a heterosexual man, and I like it when people play with my butt, does that make me gay?” or “As a woman, does liking anal sex make me a slut?”
If your partner says no to anal play
It can be disappointing if your partner decides that they don't want to try anal play. That feeling is understandable, and it's essential not to let that damage your relationship.
If your partner isn't into anal sex, do your best not to pressure them or try to convince them to change their mind. That's far more likely to cause problems than improve things. The best thing you can do is thank your partner for being honest with you about what they want.
The best thing you can do is thank your partner for being honest with you about what they want. You can also ask them to tell you what makes them not want to try it. There might be some middle-ground for you to compromise. For example, if your partner says that they’ve tried anal sex and it hurt, you can let them know that you’re also interested in exploring external touch, without any penetration. You can practice anal training (hint: see below), or guide them to our anal play advice section.
If your partner has a firm limit around anal play, the best thing to do is accept that and look for other ways to enjoy sex together. Remember, there are lots of ways to have sex, and anal play is only one option.
If your partner says yes to anal!
Congrats! You and your partner are one step closer to experiencing the joys of anal play. However, there are still a few more things to talk about first. Here are some questions to ask them:
• “Have you done anal before?”
• “Have you ever used anal toys?”(Check out our ginormous guide onanal toys.)
• “What is it about anal play that you enjoy (or are curious about)?”
These simple questions will give you some useful info about your partner’s desires. For example, if anal play turns them on because it feels taboo to them, that’s different from enjoying it because of the physical sensations. The more you know about why your partner wants to have anal sex, the more you can create an experience that will leave you both smiling.
rookie mistakes to avoid during first time anal sex
We're almost there! But before you go, here are nine anal play mistakes that you don’t want to make.
not using lube
not having foreplay
not using protection
not communicating with your partner
not going slow enough
not cleaning up before going from anal to vaginal
not cleaning your toys after anal play
not peeing after anal sex
not performing aftercare
anal aftercare
Aftercare is the act of taking care of your partner after sex. It thanks our partners for sharing themselves with us, and reminds them that our concern for their pleasure and well-being doesn't stop with the orgasms.
Anal sex aftercare doesn't need to be overly sentimental or grand — it just needs to be an intentional display of appreciation and responsibility.
Whatever you do, follow our general aftercare rule that the higher you fly, the softer you should pad the landing. While gently fingering someone's ass might require a simple "How's your tush feeling?", a long session of anal penetration will likely require much more.
And that's all there is to it! Enjoyed this article on anal hygiene? You'll love our brand new guides onanal training, analingus tips (that's oral sex on the anus!), prostate orgasms, andstainless steel sex toys. p.s. Head on over to our sister-brandLe Wandto learn why wand vibes are rapidly becoming everyone's favorite sex toy.
Cock rings are traditionally a band that helps with erections, now they provide a huge improvement to a couples sex life, they can make a dildo better and can enhance masturbation.
In addition to sex, there are a few other ways they can be used. we will go through and explore some of the reasons that anyone would buy a cockfor their collection and the benefits it can bring.
Each type of cock ring has a different set of instructions and not all steps are the same for each type. Before you buy a cock ring you need to look at the different types and what sort of results you are after or your final goal.
Regardless of the type you have, trimming your pubic hair will reduce the possibility if pulling hairs when the device is being put on or taken off. If you have a cage or scrotum ring, it will fit better and more snug up to your skin.
If the cock ring is being worn for the purpose of ED or to keep the erection hard, trimming the hairs is a just to make sure the material rests against your skin. The minuscule gaps that pubic hair leaves between the materials and your skin can be enough for blood to escape the penile tissue and the erection to go flaccid earlier than you intended!
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Using a Cock Ring for Masturbation
To enhance masturbation, people often choose a vibrating cock ring. The vibration offers excellent stimulation while using a stroker. Although most vibrating cock rings are marketed to and be used by couples, we suggest them for solo use for anyone who want to improve their masturbation pleasure.
If you have a single vibrating ring, twist the vibrator to face downwards so that it vibrates over your testicles or even try moving it in different positions to see what suits you . It's a great surprise you wont see coming.
The adjustable / lasso style rings are commonly used during masturbation. Fit it tightly around your cock, then right at the moment of ejaculation, release the pressure and let the flood gates open. This little secret can improve the power and strength of ejaculation and makes the orgasm feel stronger.
Using a Penis Ring with a Vacuum Pump
Most men use the constriction or tension band in conjunction with a penis pump. The vacuum suction pump gives him an erection and the tension ring maintains the erection. The pump draws blood into the penile tissue, and the penile constriction band keeps it there.
Men with severe ED find it more useful to put the ring on the shaft first, then use the pump after. It is also possible to put the ring on after pumping, so we recommend that you try both methods to see which works best for you.
Using a Penis Ring to Prevent Premature Ejaculation
First it's important to note that wearing a cock ring will not stop premature ejaculation, but a tight fitting band will help to prevent premature ejaculation. The added pressure on the penile tissue lessen the load shooting at once. You will still orgasm, but it may give you a few extra minutes of sex before for cum.
It's also important to note that only the tightest fitting rings will have the effect of slowing ejaculation, the soft jelly cock rings might not have the same effect.
Using a Penis Ring to Improve Sex
Many rings have ticklers, ribs and nubs that are designed purely for improving sex with your partner. Vibrating cock ringsare the most popular example of this style.
The most popular style that couples purchase to make sex feel better is the vibrating cock ring. The buzzing stimulates both partners, the deeper his penetration, the stronger the vibration that can be felt, so harder and deeper feels better! The dual vibrator devices are powerful sexual enhancers for couples adding a crazy amount of vibration compared to the single vibrating cock rings.
A thick jelly cock rings can improve lovemaking because both partners will feel the squishy external padding during penetrations. This subtle hands free enhancement is quite substantial.
The cock cage style holds the entire unit higher giving the appearance and the feel of a bigger dick. Because his scrotum is tightly held, this will also have the side benefit if delaying premature ejaculation.
Using a Cock Ring on a Dildo or Vibrator
People are buying cock rings to use on their dildo or vibrator because it adds external stimulation during. A vibrating cock ring can be added for more direct stimulation, its not a common trick of the trade this little secret is what people who are sex toy connoisseurs know to improve your dildo or vibrator playtime.
Just make sure never to leave the cock ring on other toys as silicone surfaces will melt together causing the color to bleed and the silicone to melt onto one another.
How to put on a Cock Ring
The best time to put on a cock ring is when it is semi-erect. If your cock is flaccid, it will simply slide right off. If your cock is fully erect, it can be painful to put on, especially if it's a dual ring with a scrotum band. Stimulate your cock a little bit to get a semi chubby then quickly put on the ring before it becomes fully erect.
Some people lubricate the interior of the ring's circumference and the sides of your dick all the way to the base of the shaft to make it easier to slide on.
The Lasso can be placed around the shaft only, or both the shaft and testicles at the same time. Slide the bead or clasp to adjust to your desired fit.
For a single cock ring, roll it down to the base of the shaft. Do not stretch or pull it over your cock, it may tear the cock ring.
If there are dual rings attached together, put the shaft band on first, then the scrotum band second or stand with legs apart then slide testicles through then slide cock through.
If you have a vibrating cock ring, remember the face the vibrator in the position where you want to stimulate yourself.
If you have multiple a pack, put the widest on first, then follow with the subsequent sizes. The rings can be stacked for maximum pleasure and erection control.
If you have a full cock cage, spread lubricant around the interior completely to reduce friction with your skin and tuck the scrotum into the pouch first.
For a cock and ball spreader, spread lubricant around the interior and put the testicle straps on first, followed by the shaft.
Warning!! the links below are R18
These links below are visual guides from r18 sites on how to put some cock rings on. so please beware before clicking.
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